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How can we handle the neighbors children?
We live in a large neighborhood with small houses. Most families let their kids ages 5 and 6 play alone outside without supervision. We live right by a common lot. We frequently have children playing in that lot but many times, they get on our property. We wouldn't necessarily mind but we have some bushes and plants that could really hurt if you run into them. A couple of weeks ago, I found some kids in them throwing balls onto our house. My husband went out and firmly told them to stop. Just last night, they were there again and we told them to stay on the common property. Well, seconds later, the father of one of the kids came over and told us we were being too mean to the kids and that we needed to come get the parents instead of yelling at the kids. The problem is, is that the parents are NEVER outside and we had no clue where they were they lived or who they were. I want to be at peace with my neighbors. So, are we justified in what we do? I am already upset because when I take my own 6 year old outside, the kids come and play with our things and I end up babysitting kids I don't even know. I usually tell them we are having family time and tell them to play elsewhere. These kids seem too young to play outside alone without supervision but I know it's legal to do. What is the proper action here? Do I tell the child to take me to their home so I can talk to their parents (could be a very long way away) or do we just keep up what we are doing? I don't want anyone to get hurt and that's why we keep doing this. They just seem to think that we don't want them in our yard. Thanks!
4 Answers
- ?Lv 47 years ago
HERE IS THE DEAL. The best thing to do is move. Yes move. Get away from kids all together. But as you have your own....and they will make friends of some of the others and be around for years to come, be sure to be on the brats good side.
Really, what you need to do is call the local cops and ask them for some ideas. They deal with this sort of thing all the time and they (cops) would REALLY, REALLY, rather talk with you know than talk with you and another kids folks later over a misunderstanding. It makes everyone's life better in the long run. So they deal with short of issue all the time and have some good tips. Also see if there is a hood watch program, those people know were everyone lives and can offer good advice or clues.
Good Luck
- A Decade AgoLv 77 years ago
Parents are really failing their kids in this era. You and your husband are not harsh at all. If there are children around, they should be supervised by parents. It's common sense and the right thing to do because children will always be out of line and cut up, which is why they need to be watched. If it's your property you have a right to what goes and not goes on, on the property.
If the children come on your grounds again, scare that you're going to call the police. Usually the idea of police does scare children. And even if they run and tell their parents and the parents then come to you, that is your chance to tell them that you NEVER see them supervising the children and you have no idea where to even go look for them if something goes wrong.
I live right next to a house full of countless kids that had a habit of going into our backyard without our permission, throw things at our dogs, always trashing our side. It is annoying as hell living next to kids. And couple of times we just had to go next door and correct them.
- 7 years ago
I would tell the children not to go around in your bushes because they could get hurt. I would also tell them that if they threw anything at my house again or played over by those bushes, i'd tell their parents. I think the best thing to do would be to contact their parents, maybe by phone call, and just let them know that the kids are always playing alone and it is very dangerous. Let them know that if they come on your property again, vandalizing things you will call law enforcement.
Hope this helps!
- DavidLv 67 years ago
Do not call the police or move. The police do not want to get involved, because there is nothing criminal. Why move when you and a neighbor have a difference of opinion on how to resolve issues.
Tell the neighbor he can come over to your house anytime he has an issue, but when the kids are acting out of line in your yard...you will take action. You do not need his permission...or blessing.
