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Getting really annoyed at my dad, feeling left out of my mums 50th birthday?
Right so here's the back story:
Me, my dad and brother are organising a surprise party for her 50th and my dad asked my brother and one of his scrawny wee pals to pipe the cake in (bagpipes). Now me and my brother are both musicians of equal skill (I'm a singer and my brother is at uni doing a music degree so we are both equally good musicians) and my dad never asked me if I wanted to sing for anything. I'm really fed up of this (fed up of my little arrogant brother constantly getting the lime light and I'm in his shadow when I can be just as good). I know that days ment to be about my mum but I want to sing for her instead of hear hearing the same old boring thing from him (I rarely sing in front of a large crowed)
so aye. Please help, how do I stop this resentment against my twin brother, how do I get my dad to let me sing for my mum etc?
Also just in case someone writes "your probably not a good singer then" here's what I sound like https://soundcloud.com/craig-arnold-garden/defying...
Furthermore I've got Aspergers syndrome so getting my point across or trying to ask people things is quite difficult for me
2 Answers
- KentL~♡~Lv 47 years agoFavorite Answer
Hi, Craig,
You should be allowed to celebrate your Mums birthday - and from what you say, you are indeed it appears, being "left out" - which is not right and I am not surprised you feel the way you do.
Look, only real suggestion as I can feel and sense your anger, hurt and frustration, is show your Dad this question and indeed the answers if you so wish.
( And by the way, you have explained yourself clearly here and your point and feelings are plain as day, so do not fret about that., so showing him this question will say it all.)
I really wish you well, it is not fair to feel left out - so sort this out and get singing in front of your Mum, she will love it!
( I wish her a very Happy Birthday for her 50th too)
*Edit, albeit about 12 hours later.
This question "stuck" with me thus I did want to add more.
You say it is your Dad, your brother and your good self organizing this party ?
Then yes you should show him this question and ASK that you be involved - there is not reason at all that you can not sing for her she is your Mum!
You and your brother could take it in turns - depending when you want to perform and sing in front of her ( say for example, your brother sings / plays first and then you, singing either in the mid way point of her party, or at the end as the "finishing act" )
- But indeed, you both should play / sing - no reason whatsoever that you should not.
I obviously do not know your Dad, perhaps, it did not cross his mind and he inadvertently left you out, did not mean to make you feel so hurt, rejected and angry.
And, I am 100% sure if he saw this question and, the current answers - he will understand and naturally let you play your role, as you are a Family, there should not be "favourites" so to speak.
You and your feelings are just as important as your brothers are or anyone else for that matter.
( any Dad or person should and would understand the way you are feeling.your words express it well..You have been crystal clear. Good luck again. )
- 7 years ago
Perhaps you can just tell your mum that you wanted to sing, but your dad wanted your brother to sing. She will still be really happy with you, as its the thoughts that count. Just show your mother heaps of love and perhaps buy her some expensive jewelry for her birthday.
May Allah (swt) bless your mother with a wonderful birthday!
Hope I helped!
