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Meeting a language friend?
I am going to Belarus in early May and would love to meet a friend there who has helped me with learning the language over the net. We've known of each other since 4 years, but got more close over the winter.
However, I wouldn't say there is love from her side - although my feelings are strong. And when I mention I will be in the city she lives, she doesn't seem to be too enthousiastic (which I find a bit disappointing, to the extent I'm even considering cancelling altogether).
I would love our friendship to go on, and maybe meeting face-to-face is wrong for that?
How can I warm her up and make her enthusiastic so as to actually WANT to meet me?
(we're in our twenties)
3 Answers
- Anonymous7 years agoFavorite Answer
I think you may be coming off a little strong and she may be catching on your feelings in the undertone. Tone it back a little and tell her you would like to treat her to some coffee or lunch, as these are generally lower pressure situations, for all her help.
- Lil'AlienLv 77 years ago
Maybe you should make it more clear it's friendship you want and nothing more? It sounds like you want more from this woman and she's of course not to want that, even if that's disappointing. If she has gotten the impression as well you're coming for more than just friendship it could explain why she's reluctant to meet you.
If the two of you are as close as you say you are you should be able to talk about this. So bring it up in your next conversation. Ask her why she seems not so enthusiastic, reassure her it's friendship you're after and then take it from there.
Hope this helps.
- Anonymous7 years ago
My guess is that she's already got into a serious relationship in her country, and seeing you, spending time with you, does not look "right" in her eyes, and, most probably, her friend's...
If you're looking only for friendship, maybe there will be no problem(s)
Otherwise, you should be very wary, since, as I've heard, you may get yourself a very deep wound provoked by her boyfriend's knife!...
Take care!