I suspect that my boyfriend is lying to me? Please help?!?

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I think he's lying about me making him finish. I've never felt SURE that he's come. We've been together almost a year, and we're each other's first everything.

When I've given him oral, it's hard for me to tell if he comes, because I can taste something coming out, but I think it's precum because it doesn't shoot out like I though semen was supposed to. Last time, after I tasted what I thought was precum, I asked him if I should keep going just to be sure, and he said yes. I kept going until he *cringe* told me I could stop. I assumed that he didn't come, and felt defeated. I told him he has to help me and teach me how to make him how to do it better for him. This is where things get confusing. 
I then said, "I really want you to come." He said, "Well we'd have to wait a little while, you already made me finish once."
"I did?!" 
"Yeah, before I told you to stop"

I feel like he's lying to me just to make me not feel bad. :( I might be overthinking this, but I have a gut feeling that he's never actually finished with me. It's frustrating because I've researched so much and read a ton about how to please a man, and I've been watching porn for years, so I like to think I know what I'm doing. He calls be baby and breathes hard and looks like if fe

Where do I go from here? Should I confront him? We're the type of couple that gets along beautifully,  never a fight or had to bring up a conflict and have a serious talk about us, but I'm willing to do that.

Sam &#39;Soc&#39; Caig · Answer

The real question is why are you bothered by this? There are possible insecurities there which you could explore.
In reality, if he is not ejaculating he is the one which is hurting inside. Lets work with this scenario; from his perspective, possibly, you are wanting him to finish so much but he is unable to. But this puts more pressure on him, because you are wanting him to but so is he. This stress makes it harder to ejaculate and enjoy the sex. Further to this, if he is in fact not finishing, his confidence is getting knocked each time. Again, this builds on the stress which ultimately doesn't help anyone.

Now this could be due to some medical condition, could be due to him not actually liking what you are doing or oral sex generally. There may be a possibility that oral sex is actually hurting him, especially if you are doing it for too long. Perhaps, he is someone who prefers passion over ability. Perhaps the romance and general emotional and physical feel of sex is something he prefers.

BRaini · Answer

Not all guys do the porn-scene orgasm, with arching back, crazy faces, and lots of screaming and grunting. If he's on a medication, it can impact his hardness and the force of his orgasms, and it may even impact how he experiences them.

He could also be very sexually shy - and will want to "hide" his orgasm from you. this could be out of shame he feels because of his upbringing, or for the "shame" he is putting on you by doing that, especially in your mouth (which a lot of guys consider to be much more intimate than regular vaginal sex!!).

How many handy's have you given him? You certainly will be able to tell by that - IF you are paying attention.

Listen to his breathing. Feel the way his body tenses and clenches. He may be a "dribbler" and the only way you will know is by listening to the way he breathes.

Believe him. If you ask too many pointed questions, he may consider it an attack on his manhood and he will clam up.

Brian Raini

zoom · Answer

You should believe him.

Dont watch porn. Its teaching you the wrong things. Especially when you are so young.

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I suspect that my boyfriend is lying to me? Please help?!?

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