My sister is makes me feel horrible, i don't know her anymore?

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Usually my sister is very nice to me, she gives me rides to work and lends me money and we chat but there is a lot i don't know about her. All i know is that she is my sister and she lives with me... but

My sister's boyfriend, Ray came over for the weekend but he forgot to bring his sleeping shorts so he put on my sister shorts, but the shorts were very loose.

Me and my sister share a room so i was going in and out, getting ready to leave and Ray bent down to grab his pants off the floor so i got a glance of "Dong" poking out through the leg holes.

I was a bit shocked and disturbed so i told my sister later that he shouldn't wear those shorts any more, i was kind of traumatized and it made me uncomfortable and she got mad at me.

She told me that " don't be traumatized it's not like that's the first time you've seen a penis. okay he can wear whatever he wants" in a harsh voice.

I don't know why she's mad at me...and also at night they have sex right next to me since we share the same room. this is so unfair....
 btw i am 20 and she is 24, and ray is i think 28

but why would she do this? It's gross and i'm usually out for the day, they just had to wait maybe 2 hours for me to go, or they could of done it in the bathroom or in another room. why next to me?

I really hate my sister now and i feel uncomfortable when she looks at me.

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OK, right away I want to address this issue of your sister and her boyfriend having sex with you next to them in the same bad. I don't know if this is acceptable in some cultures in the world, but where I come from it is without a doubt absolutely unacceptable. If you two have a living situation where you must share a bed with each other, then she has absolutely no right to invite a guest to share that bed, (at least without your permission) So there you have it. By quietly laying in bed trying to sleep, and saying nothing, you have basically given them permission to do the nasty with you right there in bed with them.

What you need to do is assert yourself in this situation. Tell your sister outright that as long as she chooses to stay in a situation where you two must sleep in the same room, and the same bed, then there will be no sex with anybody. If she needs to have sex with him, then go somewhere else and do it. It's more than unfair as you put it, it's just absolutely gross.

Now, as far as getting little glimpses of Ray's junk, I think that goes with the territory. If you should be traumatized by anything it should be over being in bed with them while they are having sex. You need to learn how to pick your battles, and telling your sister that Ray treated you to a little peek strikes me as something you could have kept to yourself, unless you think he's exposing himself to you on purpose.

Look, you guys are all in your 20's. You are all old enough to know how to treat each other with respect. Maybe your sister and her boyfriend can live a hedonistic lifestyle, but that doesn't mean that you have to volunteer for it as well. You didn't say who's house all of this is happening in. If it's your parents home, then  I recommend that Ray needs to step up and provide a proper place for he and your sister to have sex.
If instead, this is a place that you and your sister are renting or owning together then I recommend that you give your sister 30 days notice, and find a new living situation for yourself, one that allows you to feel safe and comfortable and able to sleep worry free in your own bed.

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I do not know exactly what you want to hear...
Yeah, your sister is totally wrong for doing that in the same room with you, but couldnt you have just got up and walked out?
Stop worrying about her so much and just do your own thing. She is obviously too busy being a sl*t, to care about your feelings! I would be mortified if my sibling had sex near me! You need to just flat out tell her that you do not deserve this kind if neglectful treatment and next time she wants to bang her bf, she should go elsewhere!!!! Stand up for your self! Make a scene! Tell her bf embarrassing stories of her that only you and the family know, than maybe she will not bring him near you nearly as much! That will teach her!

I'm sorry that this happened to you and I wish you all the best! xoxo

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