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I feel so lonely and I don't know how to fix this?

I'm 22 and I moved to Maryland 15 months ago and all I do is work, take care of my grandparents and go to the gym. I haven't met any guys or gone on a single date. I don't have a car and my days off are Wednesdays and Fridays. I'm saving for a car but it'll be another 6 months until I have paid off a few things and have enough. I'm so tired of being lonely. I'm an attractive girl and I feel inadequate because I see everyone else with boyfriends and lives of their own. I feel like I'm not living my life but everyone else's. What should I do? I've tried internet dating and it isn't for me whatsoever. I just want to feel my age and have a reason to smile again. I want a relationship and someone to invest my time in. My family is all broken apart and being 3,000 miles away from my best friends doesn't help. I just want to give up. I feel so isolated and stuck to my obligations yet never having anything to look forward to or happiness of my own. :( how could anyone be happy like this? I can go days without one text and months without human touch.

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  • 7 years ago

    Perhaps you should move back home? is that out of the question? I realise it's difficult when you move somewhere new, I'm lucky in that I moved with my girlfriend, but it's all less than rosy, it feels as though the grass is greener elsewhere, but I've moved several times and the grass is never greener.

    The only advice I can give you is to try social skydiving. Probably sounds crazy, but walking up to random strangers and starting conversations with them is what it entails. It's a great way to overcome your fears of meeting people, even if it doesn't work at first, after a while of trying it you find people to be happy to talk to you, you start to feel this empowerment too, what's more it's a good way to meet people you like the look of. It's called social skydiving because of how extreme of a thing it seems to be, and you get a rush from it, it makes you feel alive, and the best part is you can do it anywhere without having to buy expensive equipment. If you're only living in Maryland for a while then it's perfect as you won't have to worry about long term embarrassment. In my experience most people are glad to be spoken to by strangers, especially an attractive one.

    Also, there's a book called Yes Man, it's excellent and helped change my life (for a few weeks anyway), look on Amazon and you'll probably find a copy, don't bother with the movie, it's good but the book is far better.

    I'm not sure if this is the kind of help you wanted or even need, but it's all I've got right now.

    I wish you all the best.

  • 7 years ago

    Use your grandparent's care as some kind of payment for the care you're giving them. They would have to go without care or pay someone to do what you're doing for them otherwise.

    They probably seldom use their car anyway but they certainly should want to compensate you for your care of them. That should solve your problem since you can start going out in your free time. Good luck!! : }

  • 7 years ago

    One day you'll find the guy you are looking for. It may not be today. Or tomorrow. But it will happen. You can't just force yourself into a relationship. It won't work.

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