Violet

Every time I get sick I have a day or two of constant sneezing. I probably sneeze a couple hundred times to the point I've almost gotten in a car accident from a sneeze attack. I have no idea how to make it stop. The worst part is I almost always have to work because you can't just take 3 days off for a cold.. And so I sneeze all day at work. It's terrible. Does anyone know any remedies?

One of my best friends and recent ex boyfriend died in a motorcycle wreck 2 nights ago. I am trying to get used to this shock and comprehend what this means. I keep thinking about heaven and hoping this was just apart of gods plan. I hope that he fulfilled his life on earth and God called him back, relieving the pain and suffering of a life on earth. I am desperately trying to validate that there is a heaven. I just need to know he is happy now and safe and not just gone like he never even existed.

Do you think heaven exists? Do you think god takes the good people young?

A few hours ago (1am my time) I found out that one of my best friends and previous lover died last night. He was involved in a bad accident on his street bike where he ran directly into the side of a van killing him instantly. I am in shock. I'm heartbroken. We've been friends for years and dated too. We broke up mid January because of distance but I never got over him completely. He was amazing and I have so many memories with him. We were so close and countless times cried together and held one another. The thought that I will never see him or speak to him again is killing me. How will I recover from this? I've lost other friends and my mom and family members but this is so unresolved and unexpected. Help. I need some encouragement or anything to cheer me up.

I'm a 22 y/o girl that moved across the us to live with my grandparents over a year ago. Since the move I have no social life. All I do is work and come home. I've met very few people and don't have friends to hang out with. I am miserable. I have no family that I'm close with. I don't speak to my dad and my mom passed away. The loneliness and lack of passion in my life has me so depressed for months now.

I don't know what to do. I don't have options. I can't just move again. I just want excitement. I see my peers living it up and I'm here crying myself to sleep every night because I don't feel loved. I have no significance. I want something of my own that can't be taken away from me. I think I deserve comfort and happiness and love. Does anyone have any advice or personal experience that could help me or cheer me up? :(

No, my parents never told me I'd be successful or boosted me up at all. They didn't think I was something special. For some reason, throughout the craziness I've survived in my life I've always had a feeling that I'm made for something amazing. I wonder if anyone else feels that way? I literally have no reason to think I'll have a successful life and find my niche, I just have faith in it.

I've always been different. I'm the black sheep of my family because I'm different. I never did well in school because of my ADD but my creativity and quick wit is my savior. I've learned how to take a shitty hand of cards and play them to my advantage. Maybe I'm just crazy but I know wherever I end up or whatever I'll do will be unconventional and against the norm but I will be successful. Is it just me?

I've struggled with depression and my life has been and is a wreck. But I'm so grateful still it kind of amazes me. I used to feel alone in a room full of people and now I feel so united in my solitude.

I'm thankful for my friends. They never fail me. They are my happiness, they have my heart and I prioritize them like my family. They are so supportive and loving. They know what to say to cheer me up and are so up lifting. How did I get so lucky?

I'm thankful for my job. It's been an escape from home. I'm grateful for my clients that are encouraging and loyal to me. I feel blessed to work with so many people that value me and like having me around. I'm finally at a job that I can stand long-term. It's stability to me.

I'm full of joy that I am living. The circumstances aren't great but I feel so overwhelmed with positivity that things will improve. I have so much to look forward to in life. I'm filled with love and have so much to give. I want to be the best I can be. I never thought I could be happy and have nothing until everything was taken away and I learned to love myself. I'm blessed to be 22, without family and yet so grounded and level headed. Life is all about attitude. Mind over matter.

I'm going to make the best of the time I have here. I am learning how to enjoy the present and let go of my worries. It's a journey but I hope others feel this way too. I've got too much to ever give up on myself.

My life is a crazy mess right now but I often find myself day dreaming about my future. I feel excited for my life and what will happen and the experiences I've yet to have. I smile thinking about my friends and how important they are to me. I feel a wave of contentment when I let my mind fantasize about how lucky I am to have made my own family out of friends that know who I am and love me, flaws and all. They've given me what my family never could. Tears fill my eyes to be accepted and loved and supported in that one aspect of life while every other aspect is a wreck. I just feel hopeful. I haven't let my life and it's obstacles hold back my love for life. I'm passionate. I've fought the feelings of hate and the temptations to be negative in my darkest hours and I feel a sense of pride in my strength. I have so much to give and one day I will have a real family of my own and have a place in this world. Too often we let our obstacles take over and let life defeat us. Tonight I'm celebrating my tenacity and optimism :) I'm grateful to be alive and I refuse to give up on myself. Everyday I'm learning how to love myself more and more. I go to bed each night wishing only the best for everyone around me. I hope others feel this way too or maybe my optimism inspires someone else not to give up as well.

I have a 5,000 btu air conditioner unit that was about $130 at target. I use it only at night when it's too hot and the 2 days I'm off work each week.

My uncle wants me to start paying $100/month just for its use. I think this is insane. He's acting like this is like running our actual air conditioning in the house!!!!! A wall unit should be much less expensive in comparison correct? It's a weak and cheap a/c until anyway. What do you think it costs or what's reasonable to pay extra for the amount I use it?

I was at work today and had an itch in my eye and accidentally hit my eye with my nail. It got a little red in the corner but I kept working and it wasn't a big deal.

Later tonight I was upset and started to cry and my eye stung so bad and felt weird. I went to my mirror and I can see a little tiny dip where I must've cut the white of my eye. It's red still but should I be worried?

Is this serious or will it heal naturally? I don't have time to see a doctor besides tomorrow so if I should it would be good to know.

We met while he was in rehab and were just friends. Now a year later and he's been sober for over a year and doing well for himself I wonder if that's still too soon for a recovering addict to be in a relationship.

Also is a 27 y/o man too old for a 22 year old girl?

Not much of a question, just need to vent and get things off my chest. How can I be 22 years old and so alone? I have friends at work but when I go home and days off I have no one. I don't have parents or guidance or any source of love in my life and it's been this way for so long. I haven't dated or been in a relationship for over 3 years.

I feel like I must not deserve love because why else would this be the type of life I lead? I go weeks and months without even a hug. I crave affection and human touch. When I watch tv or movies I can't keep myself together because when I see families or displays of love it makes me emotional. I'm just so alone and don't know what to do or how this will get better.

I'm just lonely all the time and my work schedule and taking care of my grandparents makes it hard to go out and meet people. I'm 22 and been single for 3 years now and I just want what other people have.

I want to be held by a man again and feel special. I go months without even a hug. I'm always so independent and for the most part never got sad about being lonely but it's hit me like a brick wall.

Anything to cheer me up would be appreciated. :/

If you're nice to a guy he instantly thinks you are attracted to him. If you flirt with them they think you're a whore. If you like them back they think they're too good for you.

Why are guys so damn difficult? I must be doing something really wrong.

I graduated in 2010. I'm 22 and a lot of my peers are 21 & 22 years old. I came from a pretty small city in the state of Washington and almost EVERY girl I graduated with has at least one kid now. Some of them have 5 and 6 year olds and one has 5 kids already!!!! I'm literally one of the only girls I graduated with that has never been pregnant or had a baby.

I just feel like this can't be true everywhere. Is this really the norm these days? My walking class had 500 kids and probably 100 girls have babies by now and more than one.

Some guys I know only like stick thin women while others like a woman with hips and some meat on her bones.

What do you prefer and why?

Also, do you think if a woman is overweight (chubby/thick but not obese) she isn't attractive anymore? Or do men look further than a woman's body?

I was put on Ritalin la 10mg twice a day 2 weeks ago and have already lost 7.5 lbs. I do need to lose a little weight so it's exciting but it curbs my appetitie so much I'm really not getting the nutrients I need. :/

My job is fast paced and I don't always get a lunch (day spa and salon) and it's SO easy to forget to eat on it. Any suggestions or experience? I've always taken a multivitamin.

We started as acquaintances that went to high school together (he's 2 years above me) and eventually started to hang out and become friends in November 2012. I knew I liked him right away but he was hard to read. By the end of December 2012 we stopped talking and I ended up moving across the country. In June of 2013 he got in contact with me and we started talking as friends just catching up. By August we liked each other. I decided to take a vacation back home (where he lives) for 2.5 weeks for Christmas. We were so excited and seeing him for the first time was incredible, a feeling I've never experienced. On my vacation we took a mini vacation to a little Christmas town and had so much fun and on the first night there in our hotel he asked me to be his gf. We were inseparable my whole trip and even met each other's families. We discussed how we were going to do this after I left and we wanted to still be together but have a date that I would move back and live with him. We settled for April and he was very nervous of the distance thing but I let him make the decision and he still wanted to give it a shot.

December 31st I left and within 2 days of me being gone he was distant and depressed like. Finally I called him and he said he couldn't do it. It hurt me so bad. And after that he basically fell off the planet not responding to (the few) texts I sent him.

Until last night he said he has been thinking about me a lot. I'm so confused. What should I do?

I'm 22 and I moved to Maryland 15 months ago and all I do is work, take care of my grandparents and go to the gym. I haven't met any guys or gone on a single date. I don't have a car and my days off are Wednesdays and Fridays. I'm saving for a car but it'll be another 6 months until I have paid off a few things and have enough. I'm so tired of being lonely. I'm an attractive girl and I feel inadequate because I see everyone else with boyfriends and lives of their own. I feel like I'm not living my life but everyone else's. What should I do? I've tried internet dating and it isn't for me whatsoever. I just want to feel my age and have a reason to smile again. I want a relationship and someone to invest my time in. My family is all broken apart and being 3,000 miles away from my best friends doesn't help. I just want to give up. I feel so isolated and stuck to my obligations yet never having anything to look forward to or happiness of my own. :( how could anyone be happy like this? I can go days without one text and months without human touch.

Okay, so October 2012 I began talking to a guy I had gone to high school with (he's 2 years older than me) and we hung out a few times. He seemed to like me and I liked him but it kind of just died off around january 2013. I moved across the country in feb without almost any notice. One getting to Maryland a few months later in April he and I got in touch again and really hit it off. We text/talked everyday and things got serious. We continued to be very close until Dec 2013 and I went back home to visit him for 2 weeks for Christmas. It was amazing and emotional for both of us. We took a mini vacation while I was there to see a Christmas town and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I could tell he had some doubts about the distance but I had every intention of moving back to him soon. He isn't a player or anything like that I assure you. I met his fam and they loved me and when the 31st rolled around it was very sad for both of us. He said he still wanted to give it a try. Only 2 days after I was back in MD he was acting distant and depressed like and hardly talking to me. I confronted him and he said he couldn't do it and since then he won't even respond to my texts. It left me with no closure and I'm still hurting even though it's nearly May.

What do you think is going on in his head? Does he just not care anymore? :(

It's always been apart of my life but always would go away for periods of time. I had a bad childhood and things just never have gotten better. Anyway, I've been in a bad place with my depression for about 10 months now and my mind is so negative constantly. I cry most everyday but other times I've gone through spells where I can't cry at all. 15 months ago I moved across country from wa to md and I work and come home and live with my 85 y/o grandparents. I have no friends and haven't dated or gone out really since being here. I'm so lonely and there's no way out of this. I feel so hopeless and everyone telling me to just stay positive makes me want to punch them in the face. The longer this goes on the more done I am and it makes me want to do irrational things just to temporarily feel better. I don't even know where I'm going with this I guess I just need to vent because I'm always alone and feel so unimportant and undesirable.