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Sligo
Lv 4
Sligo asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 7 years ago

What about me makes people want to be rude to me?

I am very outgoing and friendly and try very hard to be polite to people even when I'm correcting them (or lecturing them for their own good lol).

I used to be very mean to others in high school and ever since I woke up and realized I was a ***** I've been completely different.

For some reason I attract rude/mean/openly condescending people and I'm not sure why? I have 2 faces, the very mean cruel part which is always there with a comeback and the kind understanding person I constantly strive to be, although sometimes it's reeeeeally hard.

When people are mean/rude I ignore them because the only other option my brain gives me is a cruel comment or a punch…

Do all nice people get attacked? I'm told I'm bossy so maybe I appear a certain way?

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  • susan
    Lv 7
    7 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Unsolicited advice = criticism.

    Correcting people = criticism.

    Criticising people is rude because it expresses that you do not see them as valuable, and that makes them feel less valuable.

    When you make people feel bad like that, they start reacting negatively to you, which is what you have been experiencing. Express your opinion less often, to make way for other people to express thiers. In this way you show that you value those other people, and this will make you more likable.

  • 7 years ago

    Yeah, you sound kind of bossy. Tone it down and don't give unsolicited advice.

  • BJ
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Correcting people all the time is being rude ,you may not think it but it is.If you are nice to others they will be nice back but you did say you correct people it sounds like you have to be combative .I know of a person she thinks she knows all but does,nt and she speaks what on her mind .But that in itself can really hurt others you need to put your brain in gear before opening your mouth

  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    I'm sorry people are rude to you. I would do my best in your shoes or in mine not to lecture people. They already know whatever you're going to say to them, and they're going to dig in their heels harder if you say it to them. Anyway, if someone is rude to you, be rude to them back! That's why you have comebacks in your brain, is because you're supposed to use them.

    Source(s): comedy writer (I do get paid for it)
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