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Is it REALLY over between me and my boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I had been together for 7 months. We’re both 29 years old. The last 2 weeks he had really been stressing me out, and I felt like I couldn’t take it anymore, so I broke up with him. I’m studying for the bar exam, and I just really couldn’t afford the unnecessary stress with this being the biggest exam of my career as a lawyer.

I thought he would try to get back with me, but he didn’t. Then, I realized I loved him, and the thought of him not being in my life is killing me. I contacted him the day after the break up to apologize for everything, but he wasn’t trying to hear me. We had a heated argument via text. The next day, I texted him again to pour my heart out to him. I told him how much I cared about him, how my feelings scared me so I ran away, and etc. I told him things I was to afraid to tell him or didn’t know how to tell him when we were together. Needless to say, he wasn’t trying to hear that and pretty much let me know I was too late to have such a revelation, and that he didn’t want to be with me anymore.

Just last week he told me I was his everything, the reason he woke up, that he would never leave me, and he wanted to marry me. Because of that, I still think he wants to be with me, but he’s too hurt to deal with me right now.

I would like some insight on if you think he still wants to be with me, and if he would ever contact me again.

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  • Cosmin
    Lv 4
    7 years ago
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    Pushing for reconciliation immediately is a bad idea, if you push he'll push right back. His feelings are still raw and he isn't ready to hear or believe how much you love him after just getting unceremoniously dumped for being too annoying.

    90% of it is humiliation and hurt pride so you need to let him calm down a bit.

    Take a break, give him some space, let him start missing you and let him remember the good times between you two. After a while, maybe after the exams are over and done with open up the lines of communications again, be friendly and positive but not desperate or anything. Admit you were wrong if needed but don't overemphasize it.

    There's still good chances that he'll want you back, because after so sudden break he wouldn't be over you so quickly, if he truly was thinking of marriage and such it will take a few months before he's truly over you.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    7 years ago

    By the sounds of it i feel like that maybe possibly in the future he may want to be with you again but for now you have severely made him annoyed so he is not taking what you are saying.

    I have been in the same situation, my boyfriend told me all this lovey-dovey stuff and then broke up with me due to exams and it amde me annoyed because he could've just spoke to me about it and how he'd have to focus on that more than me and i would have accepted that. But because you have been blunt with him about it he seems pretty annoyed at this stage and he probably thinks that in the future you'll still be willing to get back with him...

    Maybe he just needs some time to think over? It's a pretty big deal.

    I hope this helps in some way, good luck.

    Source(s): ~ Personal experience& Opinion
  • Amer
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    You know him way better than any random person on the internet does. GIve him time to heal. On the other hand, if he is stressing you out, that is not exactly a good relationship so perhaps he isn't the right person for you. A good relationship means that your partner makes you good, not stressed. There are lots of other men out there. On the other hand, if you wait and then it turns out you do go back with him, you need to fix whatever is stressing you out first, otherwise you will likely break up with him again.

  • 7 years ago

    My and my boyfriend had a bad, bad argument 2 Christmas ago. My family butted their noses into our relationship and I thought for sure it was over. I left him alone and let him come to me. And he did. You need to let him cool down. He is hurt just like my boyfriend was. If he really loves you, he will find his way back to you

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  • 7 years ago

    Relationship is over.

    Move on.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Give it some time apart see what happens.

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