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Why do people get so possessive with me?
From the time I was 4 years old I can remember that I would always end up in the middle of two friends that would always fight over me. This continued through school always two people fighting over me and being very possessive of my time. I am a pretty easy going, passive, I guess submissive to some extents person and I would never act the way they act to try to control a person like that. Why would you want to be around someone that doesnt want to be around you?
I always end up with super controlling people. Even boyfriends and husbands (2 of them). Do I just attract these people like a magnet? Or am I so submissive that it turns anyone that I am around into super controlling monsters against their will. If the former is true, how can it be that I always manage to find these people? Or is everyone really like that, but some people just hide it really well.
There must be other people like me out there, right? People who are not trying to control and persuade and manipulate people? People who are REALLY easy-going, even when you get to know them and let them in your life? Are there any? Am I alone?
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- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
If its any consolation, every human being has two sides. This is where conflicts happen. As a child these two sides are balance, of respect for authority and respect of independence. Its as we grow older that this balance tips and it changes constantly. You have a personality that tips and has been tipping towards authority for a long time. The fact that you don't have a will of independence means that yes, you may be turning the people around you into more possessive people, because you tend not to make many decisions between two conflicting sides because you respect both. However, this is not a bad personality trait, as you can make lots of friends that way, as long as you don't emotionally invest yourself too much, which is the downside of a lack of independence.
And when you ask that if you are alone, never think that. You're not 'special'. You may have an extremely extraordinary personality, but the fact I can relate to what you're even saying means you have NEVER been alone.