My friend has started having sex...?

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My friend has started having sex and even though we are still in high school I refuse to judge her. I'm extremely open minded and I just want her to be safe.

I'm planning on having a discussion with her about it, and I'm wondering what exactly I should bring up?

I think its a good idea for her to THINK about what she would do if she JUST SO HAPPENED to get an unwanted/ unexpected pregnancy. How would she keep the baby, she's in high school, could she live with an abortion? Are these smart things to bring up? I'm also going to tell her to talk to her boyfriend about this subject as well... How does he feel about abortion, and is he prepared to pull up his socks and start working if she decides to keep the baby? I'm not sure if she's on birth control, but she ALWAYS uses protection...

I was also going to talk to her about looking up a gynecologist. I've never been sexual, so I don't know how long after you need to start going for check ups? When do you go in for check ups?

Also.... STDs. I wanna ask her to talk to her boyfriend about how they would both deal if one of them were to become infected... Again, I'm not sexual, so I don't know if they can just show up, or what? How do you actually get an STD, and who should you talk to if you think you might have one? Either way, I want her (and him) to get tested... where would you go to get tested? The doctors office, a hospital?

Is it to much to ask her to promise me NOT to have sex until she does all of these things?

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You are a GREAT friend!! I love how you're emphasizing on getting her educated on sexual health since she's starting down that road.

Okay, now I'm not an expert...and I don't want to take a chance answer those questions because I'm afraid I would get you a wrong answer. BUT! There is this fabulous person on youtube who has a degree in sexual health (or something like that) and answers ALL these questions and more. Literally, she talks about everything you need to know about sex. Perhaps it would even be more fun for the two of you to watch those videos instead of having a long discussion. I dunno. But the Youtuber is Laci Green. Google her, browse through her videos and you'll find the answers to all those questions.

I'll take a shot at one question. They say you should go to a gynecologist once a year from the time you start having sex.

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She may not appreciate you trying to act like her mother. Of course safe sex is important and its great you care so much but...just chill. You can ask her to make sure she's being safe without making it an intervention or something.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm the one she's having sex with, though.

Miss T · Answer

Tell her to practice safe sex and she is not the only girl having sex in high school some people start having sex in middle school

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This isn't a question.

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Good friends hold you accountable and encourage good behavior.  She might not like it but if she is a good person she will appreciate your candor.

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Life is full of all kinds of stuff.

Best to just do whatever you think is right.

Half~Troll | Half~Man · Answer

Well that is toally wrong unless the guy looks like me. >0

AUSTIN · Answer

She may see you as overreacting but you could bring it up

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It is none of your business.

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My friend has started having sex...?

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