my mom thinks my dad is having an affair. what should i do?

My father also had an affair with another woman, so I can speak with some experience. First of all, you have to know for sure that he is indeed having an affair! It may seem rather rude from me but I checked his phone because of the fact that he was constantly on it, chatting with... someone. I can really recommend you to do the same, if it is possible. If it is not possible for you to do this, why not ask him where he has been if he comes late? You have to show him that you are concerned about it in a way it makes him feel like telling you. Chances are of course that he is going to lie but many people can see it when someone lies, if you see this you can know almost for sure he is indeed cheating on your mother. Once you know for sure, tell your mom about it and try to calm her down because she will feel horrible. Be there for her! It has been a month since I moved with my mom away from my father and we had to do it all in secret because my father is also violent.

And if it turns out to be nothing, please still try to keep an eye out. What one feels is often correct! The fact that your mother thinks he is having an affair already says a lot. She would never say something like that if there were no major reasons for doing so.

The best of luck!!!

You are a young adult, but still the child of your parents. Love them both, support them emotionally, but I would suggest that you do not advise them in a very personal marriage problem, especially if your advice is not solicited. I wish your family well.

You shouldn't be part of this, your not dating or married to either of your parents. Turn this around and imagine how it would feel if your family started investigating you. Lets pretend your married and having a relationship with someone else. It's not something your proud of, but it's also not the whole families business.

I think your crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed.

If your parents need to talk to a marriage counselor, they have to both agree to go. Communication is the issue here.

If Dad is having an affair and won't tell the truth to Mom, that's a problem.

If Mom won't trust Dad and is constantly accusing him of infidelity, that's a problem.

Why would you get involved in their private problem ?

If I was Dad, I would want my daughter to give me the benefit of the doubt. I would get defensive if I thought my wife was making up cruel rumors about me. Just because she has trust issues, I wouldn't want her sharing that lack of trust with our daughter.

Jealous from a spouse is annoying thing that can last a life time. Sharing it, will turn others against me for no good reason. As a father I would want some degree of respect from my family. Even if I did do something wrong, dose that erase all the good I've done ? Never turn on a parent, or pick one over the other. Their just people and both are not perfect.

I've seen jealous partners poison relationships. Step back and tell your mom to handle her fears, because it only effects her relationship with Dad. Even if he was a serial killer, he will always be your Dad. You might not be proud if he is a killer, but didn't he raise you ? Isn't he the Dad you loved growing up ?

Even If he was guilty of loving another woman, that doesn't mean he doesn't still love your Mom and you.

Life is complicated and your not going to help solve anything by putting Dad on family trail for cheating.

My personal expirence as a man dealing with a jealous woman, pushed me into another woman's arms.

I never cheated but after years of being guilty without ever doing anything I gave up and left. It made me sick, not being trusted is horrible. Jealousy can be handed down, so be careful. If that if the problem, you might not trust in your relationships. Do you feel that way ?

Family should come first.

i think u should have dailouge with ur father ..... bcoz whatever the situtation is father and daughterzzz relationship are always special....jus b relaxed and have convesation with ur father...