Would you take back your ex of 5years?

I was with a guy for 2 years, so its nowhere near 5, but it was obviously serious.. He was insecure and controlling to the point where I couldn't even talk to a boy at all, only him. My life was made a misery because I was constantly on watch! This boy had all my passwords {at his own demand} and he obviously looked through messages and if he saw something he didn't like, he blew which was pretty scary. So I definately would not take him back. You know why? Because I'm pretty damn sure that we would break up again, and whats the point in breaking up & getting back together constantly. If this guy can change his ways, sure! But I honestly don't think that a guy/girl who is controlling/insecure can change their ways. Sorry to say it like that, but honestly.. It's in my opinion the truth!

Then what makes you want to get back if it was bad enough to leave a 5 year relatioship? My philosophy is to never go back to what we escape from. Very risky and almost never turns out better than the first round. He had 5 years to change so I'm almost not convinced at all that he has changed..I'm sure it hasn't been nearly 10 years since you last met this guy anyway. On another note, you cannot change a person.

The amount of time spent with someone is nothing when it comes to a decision of staying or going (Or in this case taking back).

I wouldn't.

The reason is that he would not change. It would be very difficult fro him not to be insecure and controlling becasue that is all he knows. He is so used to being that way becasue of how he sees and feels about himself.

The only way that I would is if I had a talk with him and said that if I was going to give this relationship a second chance, he needs to be less controlling. He cannot change quickly or easily but he needs to know where you stand in this.

Unless he was no longer insecure or controlling, no way....a break up (for me) is typically the end of our association and we'd go our separate ways...I'm not that big of a glutton for punishment...

You left because you say he was so insecure and controlling. If he has not proven to change then you are going back to the same situation you left for in the first place and so why go back?

I am assuming your an adult.....can you not just make this decision yourself?

if someone is controlling, would you want to live with that person for the rest of yourlife?

is that hard to figure out? or do you need more answering?

YES if he was great in bed.

No I would move on.

No I wouldnt!

yes, i would for sure.