sexism and chores?

"Sexism and chores?"

I agree with your statement. It's really the normalizing of what used to be traditional women's chores as something that needs to be equalized without looking at what STILL IS the traditional men's chores. And further, it is deemed sexist or unequal if a man isn't performing half of those. No reference to the other side.

In the end, these really need to be worked out in individual relationships in such a way that it works for them without reference to what OTHER people choose to do. The ridiculous idea that we need feminism to lobby for social change in this as some sort of mass behavioural engineering speaks volumes about it's true, unequal intentions.

Well I dont think one should be debating gender specific chores vs chores --

The fact we should be debating is that, when you work part time, and even full time women workers want flexibility in their work,less riskier work, work with less pressures and safer environments etc. and then go on and whine and b*tch about how your "man" doesn't support you in chores --- that is what ive got a problem with

How can you bring equality in the sphere of the house chores, when one party has a tonne more to do then the other in terms of ACTUAL work-- add in gender specific chores of men and it seems as if the only sexism around is by the ones who support "equality" in terms of chores yet refuse to take in to account the relative pressure and the relative work each party has to do ---

and this is not a gender specific case in anyways, however in general it usually is observed more in the case of males, who make more because they work more, and women complain that they don't do enough chores etc --- which is UNFAIR to say the very least!

Not in my house. We divide chores based on availability and skills. I'm better at lifting the heavy objects, she is better at cooking and shopping (I buy far too much of far too expensive things, and I get distracted). She does the laundry but I iron because I'm better. She remembers birthdays, parties and events, I pick out the wine, she picks out the cheese. I write the letters, she answers the phone. She gave birth to the babies, I carried them around when they were fussy so she could sleep.

50/50 is a myth and nonsense.

However, everyone knows when one of you is trying to weasel out of doing their fair share of the domestic duties. It couldn't be more obvious. It's nothing to whine about.

I think you have to work that out with your wife what is her job and what is yours. It's more of what you are good at than whether your a man or a woman.

Thats why you don't marry a western woman

A Vietnamese wife would never make her husband do chores

I think it's a matter of time. If both people in a couple are working full time and one cuts the grass once every two weeks and takes the car to get the oil changed twice a year, how it this equivalent to keeping a house clean and good meals on the table - it's not - so for chores - it should be equal time and by the way I am a woman and deal with the car and do most of the yardwork and I refinish furniture besides - women are capable of everything a man can do.