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cell phone addiction?
My partner whom I am due to marry in two months has cell phone addiction. We've been together for a year and some change. I knew she used her cell phone allot, but here lately it has increased. I've brought it up a few times and she does hear my concerns, but continues anyway. By this I mean the last hour of the day when we take "our" time together to watch a show on t.v. or talk, or be intimate. She's back and forth between me and her cell phone chatting on face book or sms. Considering we have full on days and literally have only three times we see each other that total about two hours a day. The 20 minute drive taking her to work, meeting her for lunch, and then the hour before we go to sleep. I would think it possible to put the cell phone down so we can have couple time right?
I'm not sure what to do. She's 44 and I'm 39. Leaving her isn't an option for me, but she's not making it easy to cope right now. I've brought it up to her but we seem to be at an brick wall on this issue. At least for me its an issue because I'm not even sure if I'm over reacting. All I know is what I see. From the start of the morning till the lights go off at night, the cell phone doesn't get a break most days it seems. So I'm calling it an addiction. Please tell me what I might should do about this.
Thank you all for your honest opinions. I'm going to choose Caterina as best answer although it may not be the most realistic answer because in my relationship we don't really have rules (I wish we did for the sake of being on the same page about most things). I'm going to error on the side of mercy. I've said my peace and it has been ignored I think. I'm putting faith in God to show her the error of her ways soon some how. I hope I don't have to be the instrument of that lesson.
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- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
Such a huge problem in so many relationships these days, I'm afraid. My husband and I made a rule. The last 3 hours of our day..no phones, no ipad, no electronic gadgets, no video games for our son. It's FAMILY time, and that's it. We keep one phone on in case of emergency incoming calls.. but that's it. It works for us, and it's a small sacrifice compared to hurt feelings and people feeling emotionally neglected.
- 7 years ago
It sounds like she cares more about her phone than you. Is that really the type of person you want to marry? Someone who cares more about playing on their phone and chatting with people then actually spending time with you? Unless you want to be neglected for the rest of your life and come second to a PHONE, you should break it off. Tell her that the fact she obviously cares more about her phone than you shows she doesn't value or respect you and that you don't want to marry someone like that. Either she can make a conscious effort to change, or the wedding is off.
- .Lv 77 years ago
Leaving her IS an option, you simply haven't chosen that option...
Tell her straight up that her constant preoccupation with her phone is a complete turn-off and she needs to learn to put it down (even if it takes the help of a therapist) or the relationship could be in serious jeopardy...why would you consider marrying someone who has a more intimate relationship with her phone than with you???
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- Anonymous7 years ago
Omg my husband is the has a phone addiction. He doesn't seem to care that it bothers me. So I will see what the answers people give you
