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Are my parents being ridiculous and "helicopter?"?

I am 13, and feel like my parents (mom and step dad, but we'll just go with parents) are overprotective and hover over me. These are the reasons:

♢When I am at the library, I have to check in once an hour, when I get there, and when I leave.

♢I have to check in once every 2 hours and when I go to sleep at a friend's.

♢While on the subject of sleepovers, I have to be the only guest, or my parents say, "(insert name)'s parents already have (insert number) people staying. You don't need to be there."

♢Again with sleepovers, I must be home by 10am the following morning, no exceptions or I get grounded.

♢When at the library, I can be there for no more than 2 or 3 hours.

♢I haven't been allowed to go to a birthday party since 3rd grade

♢I can't go on walk around town (my town of 4,000 people in rural Ohio) with my friends because my mom is afraid someone will kidnap me

♢I'm not allowed to do sports because of possible injuries

♢I am not allowed to have any guy's number in my phone except for my step dad and my cousin.

♢I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend (let alone go on a date, that is still undecided) until I'm 15.

♢I'm not allowed to go to sporting events with a friend or two (and one of their parents) until high school

I am a 4.0 student, National Junior Honor Society member, and have never done anything majorly wrong that have given my parents any reason to distrust me.

I'd rather my parents care than not, but there can be too much of a good thing!

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Sounds like my patents word for word I'd say yes lol way to overprotective now that I'm 34 and have 3 girls and 1 boy of my own all very good children unlike there father . The reason I bring myself up is because I work as a therapist part time for troubled teens in San Diego Ca . From what I've seen there are 2 roads that lead to a "troubled teen" the first is obvious abuse / neglect the other I call suffocation . There is a line in parenting when it comes to OVER PARENTING in those cases the child was so restricted from normal interactions with other people there age by the time they hit age 12-17 they have had enough and have no real life lessons mostly leading into all out rebellion vs there parents and you have already started with the library sounds weird but the library is safe in your parents eyes but for you I bet it's more of an escape . If you would like I could consult with your parents via Skype and try to help you get some fresh air . Hang in there they just love you

    Source(s): Suffocation survivor lol
  • Anna
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Why not print out research articles on how over protective parenting can lead to acting out. It's sooo true what the suffocation survivor said. I think if they were to realize that long term this is not helping you they may ease off a bit. Maybe you can get mace and take a self defense class to calm them.

  • MK
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Your parents are being overprotective. Some of those rules make sense but some of them are too much. You should be able to play sports and go to sleepovers and go to birthday parties... This is a tough situation because your parents are doing this because they love you and want to protect you. Unfortunately they need to start giving you more freedoms as you are now a teenager and need to start becoming more independent.

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