What should me and my boyfriend's last name be? p.s. we're gay.?

Congratulations!

Miller-Tessari definitely sounds better; otherwise, Tessari dominates too much with the hard "T" and the "sari" variation, making Miller after it disappear from the softer "m" and the standard "er".

It's entirely up to you. My fiancé and I decided we're going to keep our own names and not hyphenate them at all.

If you've already decided to do that, then I'd go with the second one.

Your question: "What should me and my boyfriend's last name be? p.s. we're gay.? Should it be Tessari-Miller or Miller-Tessari?"

You have a name now. So you are asking people what to think, literally. That is, if you are actually serious.

There are about seven billion persons. At the center of your psychological universe where you reside calling attention to yourself, perhaps you also imagine that a significant portion of those persons really care about your sex life. But in the real world, they do not.

Maybe you are aware of that so you beat around the bush with your question rather than just blurting out, "Please tell me that I am very special and precious for engaging in homosexual behavior."

But we as a species, including you and your boyfriend, have far more important issues that deserve priority over your desire for positive regard and a sort of celebrity status. Here are some that I think will only get worse if people do not attend to them:

• Nuclear proliferation:

http://www.armscontrol.org/factsheets/Nuclearweapo...

• Overexploitation:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overexploitation

• Deforestation:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deforestation

• Climate Change / Global Warming:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effects_of_global_war...

• Environmental pollution:

http://www.who.int/topics/environmental_pollution/...

• Aquifer Depletion:

http://www.pnas.org/content/early/2011/04/22/10153... (2011)

The way I regard it is that the evidence shows that no one is taking care of any of it.

You can help change that, one person at a time, yourself.

Educate yourself; you will be pleased with the results.

• Where we live:

Christopherson, Robert. “Geosystems: An Introduction to Physical Geography” (Prentice Hall, several editions available)

• Where we came from:

Jurmain, Kilgore, Trevathan, Ciochon. “Introduction to Physical Anthropology” (Cengage Learning, several editions available)

• What we have been doing:

Roberts, J.M.; Westad, O.A. “History of the World” (Oxford University Press: 2013)

Hourani, Albert “A History of the Arab Peoples” (Actually the history of Islam, per the author.) (Harvard University Press: 2002)

• World society and culture:

Macionis, John “Society: The Basics” (Pearson, several editions)

• Philosophy of Science:

Sagan, Carl “The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark” (Ballantine Books: 1997)

If his last name is Miller, the first. If not, convince him the first is better.

Miller-Tessari sounds better.

Which ever you prefer! My boyfriend and I have discussed this and for us it's an easy choice; my surname being a little unusual sounds better last.

Tesler or Millesari

first one