if i sleep with someone else, is it cheating....?

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In my dreams that is haha. After two months of dating this guy im starting to have doubts and trust issues bc he was hiding something minor from me. I told him communication is very important to me. Anyway im wondering if hes too immature for me as i usually date older and kind of longed for the guy i used to see. We broke up bc i wasnt a priority. When together he was so chivalrous and romantic but apart he ignored me and barely took time to spend time with me. I want both, the vey attentive boyfriend together AND apart. My new boyfriend isnt as romantic or chivalrous, but he tries.

Anyway, i dreamt that i called up my ex and went out w him. Feeling good i went back on the dating site i met my guy and found someone else. We went out and i had sex w him. He then told me he wasnt seeking a rs and i got in std (in my dream)! This is partly why i am so greatful to have found my guy. He didnt play games when we met and he seems sincere, but what does this mean? Shld i break up with him or stick it out if i have doubts?

Oggy · Accepted Answer

What you're doing is pretty wrong to be honest. This new guy of yours, you're stringing him along. You seem to like him which is good but it sounds like he's second best, like you're with him because you DO like him but if your ex came back on the scene you'd ditch the new guy straight away. Having feelings for an ex is fine but longing to be with him when you're with someone else, that's unfair. If I found out my boyfriend was still lusting after his ex I'd slaughter him :P
I know it's hard but in my opinion I think the right thing to do would be to break up with him for now. You don't have to explain to him why, then take some time out by yourself to recognise how you feel for both of them. By not being with anyone at all you won't have a comparison to make - you might one day realise you don't like your ex at all anymore and suddenly the new guy will just seem really nice and sweet or whatever, ya get what I mean.
I hope you make the right decision! :)

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