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Am I being selfish ?
Ok, so here's the story.
This guy has been chasing me for about 1.5 year until I finally fell for him (yes, I took a really long time to make up my mind). We've been together for more than 7 months now.
He's serving the army now (mandatory) and we've not seen each other for about 4 months because we live in different countries now. The only form of communication we have is through text & skype, and it's not even that often as he's always busy.
I'm entering university soon and I know I'll get pretty busy later and we'd have less time to communicate. Honestly, I don't see the relationship going any where because both of us would have to spend big bucks if we want to see each other again (plane tickets, etc).
I told him we should take a time out, I'm starting to feel distant already and I want to see if we can live without each other for a while. He insists that we shouldn't as he believes in holding on and he said he loves me and willing to make sacrifices for me.
The thing is, I don't want this relationship to hurt either of us. Long distance sucks. I don't want him to make sacrifices for me (even though I'm flattered really) I really don't want to hurt him (I did that in the past by rejecting him :( ) but I'm scared if don't end it things will only get worse and seeing that I'm already wavering, does he really deserve a girl who feels half-hearted abt the relationship? I really want the best for him but idk what to do ??!! HELP !!
1 Answer
- 7 years ago
Before anything you need to ask yourself something, Do you love him? Like love love him? xD Lemme just say, either way if you do or not, you need to set time to talk to him about your concerns. Its not right to continue a relationship with such major problems arising especially since you guys have a long dist. relationship. "I really want the best for him" so this is your goal. If after reflecting and you realise you don't love him anymore, break up with him. I truly believe that a relationship is only a relationship because of love. Without it, it is just friends. Even if he says that he loves you, just do it. No one deserves a half-arsed relationship, not him or you. If you love him, i don't think a long distance relationship can destroy that, if you leave him due to such crap reasons, you may regret it later on.
Whatever you do, you shouldn't drag it on, get this problem solved asap if not y'alls time is wasted.
