What can I do to help my daughter to stop drinking?

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It has been going on for a while now but her drinking got much worse after 2 bereavements in the space of a week ( her Uncle & Nan on her Dads side )

She also had a recent problem with bullying by a girl in her area who has already beat her up once but the police are not treating it seriously as the threats made are 'her word against the girls' but I have been staying with her pretty much all the time since March firstly to help her through the bereavements which she took pretty bad & then the bulling incident which is ongoing so we are looking to move her out of the area

She hit the drink BAD after the bereavements & then again recently but she has a 6 year old boy with special needs which she does find stressful in itself as a single Mum BUT the worrying thing is his needs are not met when she is drinking so social services are involved & the current situation is if she relapses I HAVE to be there to see to my Grandsons needs

Problem is it gets too much for me at times supporting her , looking after her on her 4 day binges + looking after my Grandson & TRYING to look after myself and she has begun hiding bottles and lying to my face & I feel I cannot even be around her and simply keep WATCHING her drinking , then sober , then drinking again , then sober and it seems it will never end & she has been hospitalized today as is feeling suicidal but am scared she will blag her way home & then nothing will change! :-(

Alaura · Accepted Answer

first things first, you can't stop your daughter from drinking.. I suggest seeking out Alnon cause I go to alateen and the first thing is no matter what you do the only person who can make them stop is themselves. You should still support and love her and look out for your grandson. I'm glad she's sought medical attention for the suicidal feelings, but hopefully she realizes she needs help and that a bottle won't solve her issues. Best of luck.

Raymond · Answer

Dear Chandra I'm so sorry to hear of your problem. As others have said, you can't stop her drinking she has to do it herself. She obviously needs help. It is sad to say but sometimes people have to hit rock bottom before they begin to pick themselves up. I see the priority as the protection and well being of the child. You did the right thing by dialling 999. I sincerely hope things get better soon good luck x

Laavi · Answer

Contact Alcoholics Anonymous. They know what to do,even if you aren't the drunk. You can get all the answers there. You won't have to involve her, either. Your grandboy sure is lucky he has you

chandra · Answer

I got her the help because she was suicidal and had been drinking for 3 days solid and I could not take it any more

She did not seek the help for herself but she did text me saying she was going to kill herself so I HAD to react to it of course and phoned 999

She did not let the ambulance crew in and they had to force entry and she said she just wanted to be left alone

It has all gone pear shaped and things are at a critical level with social services now and I do NOT want her to lose her son!!

I want her to get better but it seems never ending and nothing changes it just gets worse and worse and she is used to covering it up but I can't cover it up any more

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What can I do to help my daughter to stop drinking?

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