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Is this a reason to breakup?
My bf of 3 months makes a lot of money (not at all why i dated him. I already did the "sugar daddy" thing and realized I wanted a real relationship where I can count on the other person esp emotionally.) But, part way through our ship I lost my job. I never made much to begin with, but it always seems to shock my bf whenever i bring up some tidbit about my financial situation. It has gotten worse to where im afraid i cant make rent coming up. People keep telling me i shld ask him, but i somehow feel wrong doing it.
Then i think if he really cares for me wouldnt he want to help me? He spendt over $200 on liquor and didnt bat an eye when i thought it was excessive. But when i tried to bring up how bad my situation has gotten he keeps changing the subject or just wont even respond (almost like he doesnt want to know). If he truely cared wouldnt he want to know and help me? Am I wrong here? He should know by now im not after his money. Even when i didnt have much i bought him gifts and treated here and there. I dont want to ask outright i want him.to offer, but he cant if he wont even hear how bad things are!
Ive done odd jobs here and there, but its still not enough. My religious dad doesnt like i sleep over my bfs house so he wont help and my mom is too poor.
3 Answers
- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
Him not paying your rent is definitely not a reason to break up. You said yourself it's not about the money but if you want to break up because he doesn't want to pay your rent, it is about the money isn't it? You should just be upfront and tell him it's not about the money at all and that you want him. As for the rent situation, I think it's responsible to handle it on your own--you've only been dating for 3 months. He can't be expected to cover your expenses for you. Consider what you'd do if he wasn't there to fall back on for financial security. What would you do to make enough to pay for your rent this month?
- AllisonLv 67 years ago
Have you asked money from your boyfriend before? Maybe he feels like you're using him for money and if you truly aren't then you need to tell him that. I think if he can spend $200 on alcohol he can help you. But listen, in order to make sure this is a professional agreement, document or make a contract about the loan he will give to you so that there is no confusion and that you will pay him back in whatever way you two discuss would be right for you.
- 7 years ago
Sorry about your situation dear but as I guy trust me when I'm saying this is that you should never rely on a dude to help you financially you should always make sure you have a source of income and I'm sorry you lost your job try and find one quickly if you can. On a serious note if your boyfriend is the understanding type and you guys have good communication, sit him down and talk to him about your situation that's the only thing you can do. Best of wishes.
- 7 years ago
Communication is a very powerful tool to use. You must show your boyfriend that if he truly cares. That he will be responsible to help you. Also try to talk to your dad. Even though your relationship with him doesn't work. He is still your father. It seems your boyfriend is childish if he changes the subject whenever you mention your problems. Tell him you need him because you love him. If not then I suggest to find someone else who cares. I hope I helped my friend.
