grandmothers funeral day after tomorrow.i dont want to go is that ok?

I know many people are saying you should go because it's the "right thing to do", but right for whom? You, your family, your grandmother? I personally wouldn't go if it will make me uncomfortable being there and I have to walk on egg shells being worried someone would become offended I'm there and make a scene. Funerals do one of two things, people are either wrapped up in their grief, lean on each other and put aside their differences, or brings out the worse in people who hold on to family squabbles which result in bitter fighting . Funerals are for the living really. The dead don't care. If you didn't get along with your grandmother, and your parents don't want you there and you yourself don't want to be there, then why go if it would create more drama and hard feelings? I have a suggestion. Send flowers to the services, and write a sincere letter to your parents about the loss of your grandmother. If you have any good memories, mention those. Keep it all positive. It could help mend fences with your parents too.

The person who died is YOUR grandmother. I can't understand how any family member no matter how distant has any basis for her grandson to not be in attendance. "You SHOULD be there, it is only right that you be there, " etc.

How you get there is another part of it. Please involve your parents with this and get their help to go with cousins or someone you get along with. Obviously the focus is not on your grandmother at all if there is so much trouble between you. Any personal objections should be set aside in favor of not spoiling the day for everyone. Some people are so stupid and selfish.

It is normal for closest family to be in one car and others more distant follow in a second or as many as it takes at least in the funeral procession. Why can't you get there independently? Bus, train, a friend, a non-family person, taxi... there should be some peaceful way for you to attend. it is important to you at east as it is YOUR memory of it that counts for you. I hope this helped give you some new ideas on how it can be done.

It is your grandmother. Did you love her? Did you talk to her? Go out of respect. If there are worries that there might be drama, don't let it happen. That is pretty sad when a funeral could cause drama. Just stand up straight and do not let it happen. It is total respect to attend your grandmother's funeral.

Is there any way you can go and just sit quietly without any drama? Maybe slip in the back and attend the funeral? The thing is, I'm afraid you'll regret not going and paying your respects. It's not like you can have a do-over.

This is not about everyone or anyone other than YOU and YOUR GRANDMOTHER. So, please go and just stand alone and speak to no one about anything. Show your grandmother the respect SHE deserves and do not partake in childish banter with anyone about anything. You will forever regret it if you do not attend your grandmother's funeral.

Go and act like an adult with your head held high and ignore anyone who wants to instigate a confrontation. Do not speak to anyone about any issues, whatsoever. Just go and show your respects and then leave. Even if that means you avoid the "reception" or get together afterwards.

Personally, I would go. But the choice is yours. Don't fret so about what others think in this case. It is what you desire that should take precedence here.

Have a polite day.

Etiquette takes over where laws end.

I would go. Slip in for the important moments then slip out. Perhaps have someone text you for those exact moments and there's always listening to music in the car as an option.

If you don't want to go to your grand mothers funeral than don't go. Remember her as she was, and don't worry about who will tal about you not going. Don't go if hat is your decision. Live for you. yourself and stop worrying about what other family members say about you. Send some flowers, and a beautiful card, and let it be.

Go if YOU want to. If you don't want to go and people ask why say something like you will get really upset and you'll go to her grave in a couple of days to say goodbye.

I hate funerals. I refuse to go to any, even my own.