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? asked in Family & RelationshipsOther - Family & Relationships · 7 years ago

How to convince my boyfriend to not move into a new apartment?

My boyfriend bought a new apartment that is being built and we are supposed to be moving in next year. The problem is, the apartment is terrible. Terrible location, the apartment itself is badly planned out, and the view is absolutely hideous. But the worst part is I am very afraid of heights and the apartment is on the 8th floor. When we were looking at the construction today I almost cried (I would have cried if the architect wasnt there, I didnt want to look like an idiot). I absolutely don't want to move there, but I don't know how to prevent it or even approach the topic. My boyfriend bought the apartment with his grandmother, its mostly her that is most adamant about us moving in there (my boyfriend also isnt a big fan of the apartment). How should I approach the topic? I don't want to hurt their feelings, a lot of money and effort went into this apartment, but I can't sleep at night its causing me so much stress.

Help please :(

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  • ?
    7 years ago

    Ok. You've got 2 options here.

    1. Convince your boyfriend's grandma that that apartment is not suitable AT all, and you will NOT live there.

    2. If that doesn't happen, convince your boyfriend that the apartment is just not what you guys thought it would be, and see what he does. I would personally suggest him to sell the apartment and get a new one. (but make sure you've already like seen an apartment and told the owners that you're buying it, otherwise you dont wanna have a situation where you sell your old apartment and have no place to go)/

    Make sure that your voice is heard. Nobody's feelings is gonna get hurt, its an apartment, not a person. I'm sure his grandma would love you both equally if you move into another apartment..But anyways, DO NOT stand down. You have an equal share in the relationship, so yea, do what you gotta do with confidence.

  • mayona
    Lv 4
    7 years ago

    Talk to him in appropriate way but as he is dependent on grandmother finance for apartment, may be she cant affort changing plans at this late stage. You also discuss your fear...He is attracted to you and he will care for your feelings and likes or dislikes.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    huh?

    you cant discuss a place youre meant to live

    what sort of relationship is that

    better grow up a little chumbly

    that relationship and your life generally are in awful trouble unless you do

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