Am I being shallow?

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I got out of a serious relationship last year and didn't want to date or even consider seeing anyone for about a year. I am 32, and recently a family member has been badgering me to go on a date with a guy who is 62. This is the third time this has happened. She also wanted me to go out with a guy who was 55 and 58. Am I being shallow for having turned her down because of the guy's age? I feel like me and the guys she wants to set me up with have nothing in common and there is no attraction. We are in VERY different places in life. Or, is my attitude too shallow? Thank you for the help

Nash · Answer

If you are in your 30's, dating someone who is in their 50's and 60's is not the best idea.  Sounds like this family member has a warped sense of dating.  Tell the fam member to stop badgering you and have them go play matchmaker for someone else.

You are totally correct-- you and the 50/60-yr old are at WAY different points in your life.  Try to date someone at least within ten years of your own age.

plus if you aren't ready to date, you aren't ready to date.  Don't let someone pressure you into dating if you aren't ready.

best of luck

? · Answer

You're attitude is not shallow at all. It's your decision if you want to or not and you have to take into account everything, including age. The family member is not doing any favours to you by badgering you so just tell her that you're not interested in anyone at the moment.

Grant · Answer

No, he's almost twice your age....your friends shouldn't dictate when or who you should be in a relationship with, take your time and date when YOU'RE ready, not when someone else says so.

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