I am engaged but don't want to get married anymore?

Be honest. For your sake and hers.

It's not right to string her along believing that you want the same things and share the same long term goals. Keeping quiet when you are clearly not intending, or wanting to take this relationship much further is a form of betrayal. It's using her.

You are getting a taste of what a real relationship is, but not what ir should be if it's going to last and if you are both going to be happy. The honeymoon period of wine and roses doesn't last forever thank God. That would be exhausting! What your relationship should evolve into is a loving, respectful, happy and mutually beneficial partnership. Your sounds nothing like that. Seriously, are you happy with the thought of spending the rest of your life with a woman who never stops complaining about you? It sounds as though she is as unhappy as you. Have you thought of that?

If you truly love her and care about her, you will do the right thing and set her free to find a life partner that wants the same things she does.

Breaking an engagement is far less painful than divorce.

Get out NOW. Get out! NO way to rip the bandage off without it hurting but it needs to go. Get the heck out of her house and her fantasies. Go out on your own and work on your own fantasies.

In two years she'll be shaking her head and wondering what she was ever thinking hooking up with an 18 ( or younger) boy barely legal, if you even were, when she was 5 years older and supposedly an adult. And likely dreaming her dreams with someone far more appropriate.

And YOU'LL be making music, hanging with your friends jamming, digging living in the city and STILL be a good 6 years or so from thinking you're ready for the stuff you know you aren't ready for now.

Your girlfriend sounds very unrealistic. Go now. Don't take up any more of her time. You two have different paths. It isn't about what is wrong with HER... it's about what is right for you.

you explain as you have here

" It was a spur of the moment thing; I was very young and impressionable and loved the romantic thought of marriage and all that. I am 19, I don't believe I was mature enough to make the decision."

is a great start

continue with your hopes and dreams and how very different they are

all you have said is completely understandable apart from one thing

" She turned into a really angry and nasty person. It just feels like she's a particularly bitchy roommate now. "

that in itself is the single biggest reason to walk away, and now

you ARE too young to be married

but more than that you are FAR FAR too young to settle, for the rest of yoru life for someone who makes you feel like that

tell her, its the differences, and too young bit etc

that wont hurt her as much

You ARE too young to get married and your situation is exactly why so many of us advise young adults to wait until their mid 20s or later to marry, once they've had more time to mature, get through college and/or onto their career paths, have various adult life experiences, and to really get to know the person they are dating to have a realistic idea of whether or not they want to legally bind their life to that other person.

You simply tell your finance that you've realized you are in no way ready to marry and you hope she agrees that you two aren't ready. You can tell her you want to stay together as a couple (if you like) or break up or date but not live together anymore, or whatever situation you desire.

Bravo you for figuring out you weren't ready for marriage BEFORE you said "I do".

Well first of all you need to slow down. Hopping from one person to the next is not what I would consider a wise lifestyle. Have some morals. If you are unhappy then you need to get out of your situation. Your daughter can always be a part of her father life. But if you think the situation is not going to change, that's not healthy for you or your daughter. But I also don't think you need to run to your ex. Why in the world are trying to settle down so fast? You really need to be on your own for awhile and spend some quality time just you and your daughter. Hopping from one man to the next doesn't teach your daughter good morals either. All it will teach her is that bed hopping is ok. If your ex really wants to be with you then he will give you space and time for just you and your daughter.

You need to tell her NOW.

You both really don't know each other yet.

If you think it's bad now WAIT until you marry her, believe me it WILL get WORSE.

You are lucky you are finding these things out now instead of after you got married, very lucky.

I know it may break her heart but you must let her know that this is not going to work. If you go through this there will diffinitely be divorce in your future.

Stop this now before its too late

First, she is your fiancee'. (You are the fiance'.)

Second, men and women are not supposed to move in together before the wedding. (This seems to have become increasingly popular in the past decade.)

Third, it doesn't sound like you were or you are truly in love with the woman. The word "love" is very loosely used in society.

Advice: It does not sound like it would be wise for the woman to marry you or for you to marry her. I would say you should leave and grow up more. (I waited until I was twenty-five before I ever laid down with a woman following our wedding.)

This one line: " She's turned into an angry and nasty person.... Just feels like a bitchy roommate now .... "

That right there means to RUN, not walk away from this situation.

Please trust me and your gut on this!

It will only get worse, and you'll be trapped in a soul-sucking negative situation.

The stats, not me says the divorce & fatherless children rates are highest for ages 17 to 23. Fact! Thats why most people wait until age 25. If I were you Id pay all bills a month in advance and disappear / leave. Why? With everything paid a month in advance she has time to get a roomate even if the place is in both your names leave. Kids are expen$ive & the next thing that will happen is that YOU will be the one working 2-3 jobs paying for it all & then sex gets cut off. Sorry but I at 51 get a $200 Escort once a month because NO piece of tail is worth all that. Id leave now before she traps you. "Foolishness is for women & children, not us men".

She deserves a chance to fulfill her dreams, just as you do, and that begins with you telling her how you really feel and how your dreams differ from hers. You are at different stages of life.

It is a kindness, really, to speak up and let someone know you can't go along with their plans and assumptions.