How to cheer gf up after she s sure she didn t do well on a test?

Please understand that you are not capable of cheering her up. Your logical thinking male brain is not equipped for the task. One of her emotional thinking female friends will be able to do it.

For now, stop talking about it. Just drop the subject. Don't respond to her comments about the subject. A man wants to fix everything. Don't try to fix this. I suggest "distraction". Go do some things together. Otherwise abandon her until the results are available.

There should be a class in high school about how men and women think differently.

If you are close to ANY woman, ask her how a woman would deal with cheering up her female friend who is anxious about a test result.

Please understand that every single thing that your gf thinks is important, will have this same anxious result. Can you deal with this? Because if you can't, stay away from her, and women in general. Your woman seems more driven than most. Her personality will give you much pain.

p.s. She should have been studying for the whole term, not just the last 3 days. This may be another problem, but I'm just reacting to what you wrote.

The best way to make someone feel better is to be straight with them. No one wants to hear ‘It’ll all be fine’, if you’re thinking otherwise – it doesn’t help!

She’s clearly worked her hardest and put a lot of effort in to it and I’m sure it will pay off (I’m sure you’ve already told her this!)

If for some reason it doesn’t remind her that she shouldn’t dwell on the negatives – she should instead take it as motivation to work even harder the next time she has an opportunity to sit an exam.

Secondly, make her realise that the test is done. She has sat it and put her best effort into it – no amount of worrying or thinking ‘what if…’ is going to change the results she has written down. So what benefit is worrying?

Rather than focusing on your best ‘motivational’ speech, distract her from worrying. Go out, do something and spend time together as you normally would.

Good luck to both her and you! :)

How about "I know you are amazing no matter what grade you get. You are smart, wonderful ...(and whatever positives you want to add) and the best girlfriend a guy like me could wish for" and then take her out to do something fun and completely taken her mind of it. Best thing she can do now is think about something completely different, because fretting about isn't gonna change anything.

Let me just say, wow, you are an amazing boyfriend. To answer your question, you know the answer. Do something to take her mind off of it. What does she like? If she likes nature then take her for a long beautiful walk through the park and talk nicely to her while doing so. (Add your speech in as well.) Or if she likes expensive sorts of things, take her out to dinner, A romantic place. You could get her roses or something. Just take her out and make her happy anyway you can.

Take her on a romantic date ( watch the sun rise together, take her to a nice meal, find out from her parents what her favorite film is and go see it....) make it a surprise by not telling her where you're going until you arrive and tell her you wanted to do something special to make her forget about that test and say its finished now, worrying about it won't make you able to go back and redo it.

Your such a good boyfriend.. i wish my boyfriend cared about what to say back to me that much.. i had to take this big test the other day and he told me that im fine and im over reacting bc i told him i know i did bad on it.. lol but anyways i wouldnt bring up the test too much.. i would just make sure you tell her how much you love her and how amazing she is. because when i was upset over my test.. the last thing i really wanted to talk about was that. bring her flowers maybe ! and just make sure she knows how much you care for her and love her (: