How to get over an ex?!?

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Well to start with I was dating this boy since January and then in May he cheated on me and then I forgave him because I believe in second chances and it was kind of minor what he did, so we went to different schools in September and we were rarely seeing each other so he asked for a break and I didn't want one - I didn't think we needed one. And then during this break I was really depressed and upset because I missed him. 5 days later he comes back and I explained to him how depressed I was and he said he will never do it again and it was a mistake. 
Three days later, he isn't answering my messages. I thought he was in hospital or lost his phone I was so worried. So I went to a party and I was drunk and I was drunk texting him saying I miss you blah and he finally replies and he calls me saying he didn't know if he wants to be with me anymore and he didn't tell me about this break because he didn't want to upset me.
I was humiliated, broken and tired. He begged for me back saying convincing things but I stuck by his word and ended things finally.
I'm trying to get over him and I'm hurting a lot. He was my first love and I'm only sixteen. Can someone give me advice please?

Casey · Answer

Holy crap, girl. I can relate to this so sososo much. 
With my now ex girlfriend, i believed our love for each other was impenetrable and extremely mutual and deep. 
I trusted her naturally and never even thought she'd cheat, so when she did I was so shocked and confused. 
My ex didn't do much when it came to cheating and it was also considered minor what she did as well.
Trust me, I know it feels like the absolute sh*ttest time to be alive currently, I felt like i was going insane during early break-up and I cried almost constantly until I was too exhausted emotionally to do so anymore. 
It's best to ignore him in return, anything he says is most likely not entirely true though I know you would want to believe him. I know. 
Teenagers like us are in a terrible period of life where it could mean everything, but most likely doesn't no matter how much we believe(d).
I'm so genuinely sorry this has happened to you, it really destroyed me personally. 
Tell yourself not to think about him. (It's hard, but pretend he's evil)
Delete his number (I didn't do this with my gf, but i really should have)
Do not beg for him back no matter how much it hurts, babe. 
Get out, talk to your friends for support and mostly to get it out of your system. 
Friends are, well. Your ticket to the quickest recovery. 
It'll also help take your mind of him and your depression, ok?
Again, I am so sorry.

Anonymous · Answer

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor. 

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it. 

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

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