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Should I just come out?

I'm an 18 year old girl, I've finished school and an starting my studies to become a vet.

I've already told my three best friends plus my sister that I'm gay and they don't have a problem with it. I know the majority of people probably won't, but at the same time I'm really scared people will change and not like me.

A lot of my friends are girls and even though the ones I've told have been so great about it, I'm worried that all the others won't.

HAVING SAID THAT! I'm so sick of having to pretend to be interested in guys, of having my friends try force guys on me and have to make some excuse as to why I don't wanna get to know him. Or last night one of my own very good guy friends got super drunk and told me liked me.

I just want to be able to be myself, it's almost suffocating now. But I'm also scared.

What should I do? 😭

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  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    Come out when YOU feel ready. But do take this into consideration: you will not know who your true friends are until you reveal certain things about yourself. In this case, your sexual orientation. I think you should come out slowly to one person at a time but tell all of your friends because any friends who leave because they don't accept you are NOT your true friends. It's better to get it out of your system and let them know that you're not attracted to guys so that A) they can stop making you feel uncomfortable by trying to hook you up with guys and B) so that you can get all the fake people out of your life who won't accept it.

    And you never know... maybe all your friends will accept it (or at least the majority), and then you can feel more confident about both your friendships AND yourself. You have to take risks in life if you ever want to find true happiness!

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    You need to come out when you are ready and you feel more comfortable, and other than that you cant go living your life for other you have got to be living your life for yourself, i know what you are going through as it took me 3 years to come out as a lesbian, well i actually didnt come out a girl i hooked up with outed me on facebook when i wasnt even ready to come out, so i was actually forced into coming out to my family, like i said come out when you feel ready and comfortable

  • 6 years ago

    Tell them, if they dont accept you then you are better of without them anyway. Its not fun living in the closet.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    You didnt mention your parents. Why?

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