I regret coming out as bi?? What do I do?

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I'm 17 and my whole life I've been attracted to males, but this year something weird happened and I developed a serious crush on a girl. More serious than most crushes or attractions I've ever had on guys...anyways I was thinking it was a phase so I waited but months went by and I still liked her. I then started liking girls who looked like her. It ate at me and I realized I was bi and after a while I told everyone.

But...like crushes do, that one passed. And I'm not attracted to any other girls but her, and I'm being pressured into liking girls now. There's a lot of men I find very attractive and like talking about and people keep asking why I don't like any girls if I'm bi. Especially my mom. I'm wondering if that girl was the only one I'll ever like and I've made a big mistake. It gives me a lot of anxiety...I want to be able to openly talk about the men I like without feeling guilty for not talking about girls.

EVERYONE knows now and  I regret it so bad...what do I do?

? · Answer

Honey, just because that one crush "died" still means that you could be "bi", if you still have feelings for women and men then you are still "bi".  Just give it some time and I am sure that you will be attracted to someone else when the situation arises, it takes time for your emotions to "get over" someone, and in time, when you meet someone again, you will develop more stronger, powerful feelings then when you did with the first one.  Do not ever regret you saying that you are "bi", you are you and you should be proud of the fact that you are your own person and you have a mind of your own.  In time you will meet someone who will make your emotions so strong, you just will not be able to stand it, and then a whole slew of emotions will come up.  Just accept the fact that you are you and that no one or anything can change that, and your feelings will change from relationship to relationship.♥♥♥

Alex · Answer

Hey, that's everyone else's problem, not yours. You're not obligated to prove your sexual / romantic orientations to ANYONE. You identify however you're comfortable identifying, and if other people have a problem with it, that sucks for them.

The definitions of bisexual / biromantic (as recognized and accepted in the bi community) are these: "sexually / romantically attracted to two or more genders" or "sexually / romantically attracted to same gender and other genders". That's it. Those are the only requirements. What a lot of people don't realize is that you can be 95% attracted to one gender and only 5% attracted to another gender and STILL rightfully identify as bi.

However, some people might be more comfortable identifying as homoflexible (gay with slight tendencies of being attracted to another gender) or heteroflexible (straight with slight tendencies of being attracted to the same gender).

So, again: you get to identify however you want. If other people have complaints, that's their problem. Not yours.

iGir · Answer

U just prefer one over the other but u like both quit being gay. Boom! Buuurn

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