I really need urgent help!!?

First: Sit down with her (in person) and ask her why she does it. Don't interrogate her. Don't make her feel pressured to give you an answer. If she does answer, it should be something along the lines of "I don't know" or "It feels good."

Most people self-harm not because they want to die (a common misconception), but because they want to live. It may seem confusing, but if she wanted to kill herself, she would have already. She is most likely doing this because she wants to live, but feels so much pressure in her life from so many different sources that she doesn't see how she can get passed everything she's going through now to get to the point where living is fun and desirable.

Second: Ask her how she does it. It's most likely cutting, but it could also be burning, inserting needles into her skin, and pinching. Ask her if she wants help stopping. If she doesn't, there is nothing you can do but try to convince her to stop (unless she's a minor, then you can tell her parents so they can take action). If she allows you to help her, confiscate all of her materials (razors, cigarette lighters, needles, etc.) and replace them with rubber bands to snap her wrists with. This is a much safer way to feel the same pleasure and get the same endorphins as when she self-harms. Do not let her relapse. Once she goes a month without self-harming, she'll most likely be done for good as long as she doesn't start again.

If she says that she self-harms to feel alive, continue with step two, but also do as much as you can to give her new excitements in her life. Take her to amusements parks or on a small vacation. Surprise her with new gifts and take her out to dinner more often. Make her feel special. You may think that she sees how much you love her, but she might think you like her only for her body or that you're just another "boyfriend" (or "girlfriend" depending on the situation). Instead of letting her think of you this way, let her know that you're much more than her boyfriend or girlfriend, you're her partner. (You can still do the above mentioned things even if she doesn't say she self-harms because she wants to feel alive, but if she does, this part is crucial to your relationship and her quitting.)

Good luck.

Be a support for her, if she does that is because she feels she'a alone (it's not for you) it's for all the stuff going on in her llife, i really don't know her, but you could start by talking to her, tell her she can count on you, REALLY listen to her, and if she's not too alterated you could ask her to show you her skars, and then you could kiss them or something, and tell her "I still thihink you're beautiful, we'll get through this together, you're not alone anymore, now you have me." or something like that, something you actually feel and comes from your heart.

ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HER!

Ask her what's making her self harm maybe. If she's ready to tell you, she'll tell you. The only thing you can do so far is just remind her that you love her and care about her.

I would just be there for her and let her know that you will be there for her. Also I would try to get her some help from her family or a professional. I would let someone know , but talk to her about that first.

Just talk to her about why she is doing and how she feels. Then go on from there.

Just be there for her. If she won't get help for herself then i suggest telling someone to get her help. But if she is getting help then just be supportive. That is probably more then she could ever ask.

perhaps call helplines that specialise in emotional support and/or self harm. Also it would be great if you could tell her that you care about her and counselling would be a good option to get help, unfortunately she needs a professional who can get to the bottom of it with their expertise and help her long term.

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