I have a question I need to ask of fellow Christians. Non-Christians, please do me the courtesy of honoring my request to not respond.?

He has to work through all the emotions of a tragedy and part of that is denying God because things didn't work in his favor so to speak and he is angry which is normal. Only God knows the purpose of it all and as a Christian you know eventually we will understand ...now if God has a plan for your brother and it didn't include some of his choices, when he heals and softens up ( through your prayers) which will take time, he will open up to the truth. Tragedy is hard when it involves holidays especially. This will take patience on your part and wisdom from God

The best thing you can do is to be there for him. And remind him how Jesus gave way to tears at the death of Lazarus (John 11:35) or how Jacob cried for Joseph (Gen 37:34). It's okay to cry and to question God. But the key is to draw closer to him because he is the God of all undeserved kindness will make you strong and train you in how do get through this (1 Peter 5:10). And remind him of the hope that comes from the resurrection that comes from Christ.

Listen, for now. Give him a shoulder to lean on. He's in shock. Let him deal however he needs to deal. Worry about the "there is no god" later. My family has had many tragedies. "God sucks" is my first reaction to hard times. Once I'm calmer, I repent and return.

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There is purpose in suffering, but it's not what people usually think. (God doesn't think like people do anyway.)

Give your brother an extra hug. I would, but a hug from a stranger isn't as helpful as a hug from a sibling.

I'll pray for your brother. I can't imagine how much pain he's in. I'll pray for you too, because I suspect you will be used by God to help him.

I find your brother is doing what comes natural for those who are angry at God. I tell you the truth, I fnd most atheists are in actual and real denial about their aversion to belief in God, because it's not disbelief that they communicate. When they are unaware of it, they begin to say things which show they are basing their atheism on anger at God, rather than disbelief.

That is not to say that I think everyone is aware of God, just those who expressed their anger at him.

But as, f or your brother, can you fathom his outrage as you try to pass scripture as a form of comfort? Can you see that at this time the pain is very near him, and trying to get him to be scripturally sound is something only God can do? I think, though I could be wrong, that you do better to let God handle him, and you remain supportive in the physical and emotional aspect. Can you do that though? Compassion is a rare thing with some Christians, I find.

Wisdom tells me in such situations to pray in secret, that you may be rewarded openly.

Right now is not the time to engage in this discussion with your brother just be there to support him . When I was a senior in hs my girlfriend was shot and killed by her ex , I understand what your brother feels only I still believed i just thought god didn't care and nobody could tell me differently. As time went by and I healed I came back to god on my own . I needed to realize that God doesn't interact the way I want him to here on earth , gods province is the soul and the "ever after"

First and foremost, my deepest condolences to you, and your brother, and know this too shall pass. I know what your brother is going thru, and it's not a easy task to take upon oneself when we witness one of our family members suffer. But know that there is hope in the Lord, and all things will work out for you and your family. The only thing I could tell you my dear, is to be there for your beloved brother and give him moral and spiritual support. Just listen to him, and let him vent everything that's inside of his heart. Anger, bitterness, resentment and all sort of emotions comes into play when life has deal us the wrong hand, but we must continue to play the game in order to stay alive, and the only way we can survive, is through our Lord and savior Jesus Christ.

My only suggestion is for you to listen, and listen to him without being judgmental. Let him express everything he is feeling, whether its anger, rage or whatever is bottle up inside of him, the best thing is for him to let it out completely. Take him to an open and quiet location where he can yell from the top of his lungs and release all that tension he's been holding onto. He needs to let it go slowly, and eventually time will heal all his wounds. But keep on praying for him, and God will answer you in a way that you never expected. It might be a month or a year, but God does answer on his time, and not ours.

I'll pray for you and your brother, so the Lord may grant you both strength and courage to go through this period of trial, but at the end, there is hope for those who believe and trust in the Lord. So keep on trusting and praising the Lord's name. In Jesus name, may the Lord be with you and yours always. Amen

She was probably killed for the best.

Here are the 5 stages of grief:

Denial — As the reality of loss is hard to face, one of the first reactions to follow the loss is Denial. The person is trying to shut out the reality or magnitude of his/her situation, and begins to develop a false, preferable reality. He is probably passed denial.

Anger — Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy. The person in question can be angry with himself, or with others, or at a higher power, and especially those who are close to them. Certain psychological responses of a person undergoing this phase would be: "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame?"; "Why would God let this happen?" God is caring, but He works in strange ways.

Bargaining — The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow undo or avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Other times, they will use anything valuable as a bargaining chip against another human agency to extend or prolong the life they live. In essence, the individual cannot totally move into acceptance yet acknowledges the fact that what has happened cannot be undone. People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek to negotiate a compromise. For example, one may say "Can we still be friends?" when facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a sustainable solution, especially if it is a matter of life or death. Expect Bargaining soon.

Depression — "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon so what's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?"

During the fourth stage, the grieving person begins to understand the certainty of death. Much like the existential concept of The Void, the idea of living becomes pointless. Things begin to lose meaning to the griever. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and sullen. This process allows the grieving person to disconnect from things of love and affection, possibly in an attempt to avoid further trauma. Depression could be referred to as the dress rehearsal for the 'aftermath'. It is a kind of acceptance with emotional attachment. It is natural to feel sadness, regret, fear, and uncertainty when going through this stage. Feeling those emotions shows that the person has begun to accept the situation. Often times, this is the ideal path to take, to find closure and make their ways to the fifth step, Acceptance.

Acceptance — "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

In this last stage, individuals begin to come to terms with their mortality or inevitable future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. This stage varies according to the person's situation. People dying can enter this stage a long time before the people they leave behind, who must pass through their own individual stages of dealing with the grief. This typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual, and a stable mindset. At this time, your brother will probably believe in God again.

First thing you need to do is - SHUT UP!.. Let your brother go through the stages of grief in his own way. The best you can do is just let him know you are there - other than that get out of the way. When he is ready to talk, he will come to you.

i am a muslim we (muslims) love Allah and thank Allah for everything because this life is not important we want the afterlife we will go to heaven but non muslims to hell. so you have to thank your brother that he may will make you be guided from Allah who created me,you and everything to the truth and to islam you may revert to islam soon. actually your brother have to be con fused about christianity and the god described there. and you too you have to have doubts because the truth and islam is greater than you think. i am sure that you and your brother if you read whole of Quran which is in arabic or at least an islamic trans. you will be happy and you will be guided to the truth and to heaven. i pray for you and for your brother to reach to the truth it is not difficult to reach it only ask Allah to know the truth cry for than and then make researches. Allah who created you will not leave you misguided

http://islamhouse.com/en/books/1237/

I follow the most unpopular teaching from Jesus. I do His sayings. Most are appalled! I follow Him, He's right.

If family are Christian, doesn't apply. Hate the family.

Jesus is the truth. Can't do both.