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How do I cope with my boyfriend being in an inpatient bipolar program?
About two-three weeks ago my live-in boyfriend entered into a manic phase of bipolar disorder. He started drinking really heavy a few weeks before this and it got worse and worse. He was paranoid, mean, sensitive, and non-coherant to the world around him. Sunday night he went missing when I told him I couldn't handle it anymore when he drank so much and took my son and left. and his family and i found him in an ER. He has now been admitted to a treatment facility.
Honestly, I'm feeling a lot of hurt and self pity. I'm having trouble forgetting some of the fights and awful things we said to each other leading up to his admittance. I'm trying to be supportive by bringing clothes, etc to him but he still hasn't called me, but he's spoken with his aunt once and his uncle twice.
He told his aunt and uncle he doesn't want me visiting. I'm just really hurt by this situation. I have bills to pay alone we are supposed to be paying together, my son is looking for him everynigbt and doesn't understand why he is gone and I can't even visit. His aunt and uncle are taking me to visit tonight anyways, but I'm scared he won't see me and if he does what will he say.
He's trying to get out and doesn't want help. I feel so hopeless.
How do I deal with this?
1 Answer
- ?Lv 66 years ago
I'd personally wait for him to get out and see if he gets better. If he doesn't apologize for the things he said while unstable, doesn't want to be healthy, and still doesn't seem to want anything to do with you once he's out, then separation is in everyone's best interests. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't care about you and your son enough to want to get stable. As someone with bipolar disorder, I think it's selfish and cruel to oppose help and treatment, to not even try, when you know that doing nothing is going to hurt the people around you, and especially if a child is involved. Start making plans now for the worst case scenario, but if you can, try to be supportive and help him realize that help is a good thing, and that he needs to get better for things to work out.
