Any parents have a problem with Disney?

Reading through all this, you seem to be seeking agreement and arguing with those who say you're undervaluing the importance of parental influence.

It's smart for you and your husband to be thinking about all this, but that just says you're good parents. And good parents provide the worldview kids have. I could go on at length about kids I grew up with (heck, I'll even include myself) who were exposed early on to violence in cartoons or movies. I used to sit up watching X rated stuff with my parents from the time I was 11 or 12.

It didn't matter. My parents showed me the way and that's what turned me into who I am today. In other words, they gave me "context". That's what you are providing your daughter, even without realizing it.

I think you are overreacting. You as the parents have the most influence, and the responsibility to say "punching is not right", and "don't kiss until you're older", etc. I was a child in the early 90's when The Little Mermaid was new and extremely popular. I was obsessed with Ariel and the movie. But it was because I thought she was pretty and a good singer, and because her friends were funny. She ran away to be with a man and got married at 16, and that is most certainly NOT what I took away from the movie.

My daughter LOVED Disney as a child, especially the Disney Princesses. She watched those movies a million times and wore her Belle and Cinderella pajamas 24/7. Even in high school, she dressed as a Disney Princess for any event that required a costume. Now she's in college, and she and her roommate have watched Frozen so many times they can recite the entire movie. They're both pre-med students in the honors program at one of the top universities in the country; both confident, ambitious, independent young ladies. Apparently, whatever the Disney movies "instilled" in them hasn't done too much harm.

Every day in the world, kids are going to get all kinds of messages. Many of them will be the wrong message. These messages will slip in through media & entertainment, literature, advertising, and even with other people.

I do not believe it's possible to shield children from messages you don't like. It's more important that you send the right messages, and be willing to open discussions about things. Only education and self-empowerment is what really protects kids from being vulnerable to the wrong messages.

I'm not a parents (yet) But if I had kids I would only allow them to watch shows like 'The Donut Man, 'Wee Sing Train", and Veggie tales or even 3-2-1 Penguins. I would never allow them to watch the garbage that's on now.

lol. you avoid kissing?

i have problems with some messages in some disney movies (though not with kissing) but we watch the movies and i use them as a platform to let the kids know what i think. if you want your child just to see people blandly getting along with no conflict and no displays of affection, you're going to want to avoid all movies, all tv, all books beyond Goodnight Moon, and most of life generally.

if you're worried about the "you're nothing without a man" messages in some "princess" movies (though i thought frozen was a refreshing change from that message), also expose your children to good sources of other messages. try, for example, the paper bag princess by Robert Munsch.

I'm not a parent but I agree. Especially the violent feminist and princess-syndrome-inducing stuff in princess movies like Frozen. Explains a lot of the arrogance of teenagers and young adults.

An occasional Disney movie will not warp your child. However, at age two, a child should be watching little or no tv anyway. There are much better things to do, things that will enhance brain development instead of creating a passive receptor.

kissing is a natural form of affection, get over it. you also can't shield your child from all violence. good luck keeping your kid in a bubble the rest of their life, that wont lead to rebellion at all!

oh my gosh, kids don't think like that! it's all fun and games, the highlight of the movie is the talking snowman, (olaf!) not the fact that they found true love or punched eachother or whatever! live in the moment, let them be kids, chill!