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? asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 6 years ago

My mom is so frustrating?

Ever since I was little my mom would swear at my brother, my dad, and I. She picks fights at the smallest things and she doesn't seem to realize that she's causing everyone's misery. My mom is so degrading and belittling, I feel like that's the reason why I'm introverted. Ever since day one she's never let me voice out my own opinion, and so this is reflected on the way I act in public and around people. I've been raised in a way that has taught me that my questions are stupid therefore I don't ask questions anymore. My brother moved out when he went to university, he tells my mom it's because he doesn't like commuting to a different city, but he told me it's because by living by himself in the city he's able to meet people and discover that his opinion matters. Even my mom has noticed how he became an extrovert when he went to university, but she doesn't realize that it's because he isn't living in the same roof as her where she belittles everyone 24/7. She's always swearing and blaming people for accidents, or things that normal people wouldn't make a big deal about in the first place. She's always on edge because she doesn't trust the world, and she has told me those exact words. I have tried to have multiple conversations with her trying to sort out this issue, but there are just some people who you can't get through to. I'm 16 now, what should I do?

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  • 6 years ago
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    Get an excuse to get out of the house more often. Make plans to study at the library instead of at home. Find a job or ways to earn money, and save enough for first and last month's rent so you can move out the day you turn 18. Join your local church youth group and discuss ways to deal with things with the youth pastor. Go regularly and get the church people to befriend your mom. Have the offer prayers in her behalf and have them invite her to church. Look for a non-denominational church that is accepting of people and has a program called "Celebrate Recovery", and get the church people to encourage her to sign up. Your mom needs help, but she may not know who to talk to herself. if the church can help reach her, life will get a little better. Good luck.

  • 6 years ago

    I'm 22 and I come from an abusive family that took therapy to recover from. I learned that no one is ever angry for no reason. Something must have happened once upon a time that has altered her mental state. Only she can fix that. There is nothing you can do to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. You need to accept that your mother is not right mentally or you will never be happy. :(

    Source(s): Past therapy sessions
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