why do so many feel they have rights as adults, when they live at home and let parents pay for everything?

So true! My 18 year old sister is a prime example - she lives with parents gets everything paid for no rent no bills to pay and she still complains!

Of course people over 18 and living at home should be grateful and willing to put up with inconveniences. But in respectful, loving, civilized relationships, people are reasonable.

People who impose unreasonable conditions on the needy are exploiting their power. I'm sure (or at least, I hope) you would agree that it would be evil for someone in a poor country to exploit poor women by demanding sex in exchange for food/housing. Parents who impose unreasonable conditions on their adult offspring are also being exploitative.

It is perfectly reasonable to expect adult offspring to help with chores or keep quiet at night. It is even reasonable to ask them not to bring strangers home. These are all issues that might affect other people. It is not reasonable to impose restrictions on an adult's personal lifestyle choices--like a curfew.

I notice that kids who are raised with interfering, controlling parents are often a lot less capable of taking care of themselves. The kids often lack the confidence when they become adults to move out or take other risks. It isn't a good situation for anyone when parents won't let go.

i think they should be more thankful too