Roomate problems! What shoud I do?!?

You don't know how he found out you were having sex? Well, he has five senses, so he learned of it using one of those. You can probably rule out seeing, touching, and tasting. I suppose it's possible he could smell it on you or your boyfriend after you had finished, but that seems a bit unlikely.

That leaves hearing. Maybe your BF told him? A rude or bragging guy might literally say something like, "Thanks for making her skip her shower this morning. That was some great sex!"

But if that didn't happen, then he heard you going at it.

Have you ever had to listen to someone have sex when you really didn't want to? It is horrible.

My upstairs neighbor likes loud sex, and so I get to endure her moaning, his grunting, their flesh slapping, the furniture thumping, and dirty talk. It is disgusting.

If you are half as loud as my neighbor, then your roommate heard even though he was in the shower.

Since he is religious, this would understandably upset him - while he was getting ready for church, no less! And if he is jealous of the time your BF spends with you, then it would also stress him emotionally. He's already told you he doesn't like to imagine what is going on, which is consistent with either of these possibilities.

So you have a choice, either you try to be polite and accommodate his request - after all, he didn't ask you not to have sex, only not to have sex when he is there - or you continue to upset him and have him move out.

If he moves, you are going to have to find another roommate. That will be a big bother, to find someone you can trust and get along with.

Personally, I would try to avoid sex while he was around for a few weeks, and then ask him why he found the sex so upsetting. I think that would be an easier course than finding someone else to live with. If you ask right now, while he is still upset, you won't get a straight answer. But once you ask, perhaps the two of you can find a work-around that helps everybody.

And if you really cannot delay the gratification until he is not home perhaps you and your BF can resort to oral sex during those times, since it is less likely to lead to lots of thumping and slapping which would give you away.

HTH. Also, since we can't vote for best answers any more, I would appreciate it if you could select a best answer for this question.