My husband got massage with happy ending. Is it considered cheating?

My worry is that he only confessed when you had found out for yourself anyway. So he had no intention of owning what had happened before that.

How often does he go for a massage that costs $300.00? They would have told him up front what it costs, and what he's getting for the price. That does seem excessive for something short of penatrative sex.

I think perhaps you should check out past credit card bills (if you don't do this regularly) and see if there are any other "mistakes" paid for on there. Or perhaps check the bank account for withdrawals in that amount too. That might give you some indication of how "surprised" he was that this happened at all.

Unless your husband is shockingly dense, he knew what he was getting into if they advertise a "happy ending", and he definitely could have told the woman "no" when she stared the happy ending part. However, your story is a little vague - did he know that the place did "happy endings"? How did he react when the woman started giving him a BJ? If he really thought he was going to a massage parlor and then immediately told her to stop when he was getting a BJ, he's not really in the wrong (just kind of an idiot), but I'm inclined to believe he knew what he was getting, and yes, that's cheating.

I can just see the conversation at the massage parlor "Wait, what are you doing? No, wait, I'm married....but I guess as long as you're down there you might as well finish..." Really, such total BS. The idea that it isn't premeditated, so it isn't cheating? So if you got really drunk and hooked up with a gangbang situation it would be okay with him because you didn't plan it ahead of time? How dense does he think you are? I wouldn't believe him, I'd call him on his bullsh*t, and see if he was willing to stand up like a man and deal with the consequences.

$300 for a massage with a happy ending? He paid too much. Yes, that's cheating.

Of course it's cheating he received a form of sex from another individual. Lets pretend he didn't know what it was ( pretend I say very sarcastically of course he knew he just paid for an expensive prostitute ) he still went through with it. If he didn't know and then some man or woman starts heading to touch his penis and he allowed it to continue he cheated. Doesn't matter the inbetweens of anything he cheated on you and this should not be tolerated.

Ya it's cheating. He is probably at a dull point in your guy's marriage and needed some excitement. I wouldn't advise up and leaving him but if you get any clue's that it's happening again than you should definitely consider divorce. Good Luck.!

Why don't you ask your husband if he would consider it cheating if the tables were turned. YOU going and getting an intimate massage, oral sex from some guy, plus handing over 300 bucks of you guys' hard-earned money. Would that be ok with your hubby as long as you claimed to be "surprised" by it? Somehow I doubt it.

A couple of questions really need to be answered. U need to ask him if the BJ that he got was better than the one U give, and U need to find out if he ever plans on going back knowing how it made U feel when U found out. By the way it is cheating and I would also have him checked for a possible STD, U know how those Chinese operate.

yes I consider that cheating. Even if he didn't know about it until he got there, he still chose to get one. He easily could've said no don't give me a happy ending...

I think he told you the truth - at least the admission he had a ********. It's not like he's having an affair with someone or is madly in love with another woman. I suppose if you care for, and love each other, you'll get past it all