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going from engaged to roommates... is this a good idea?

I have been with my fiance for 7 years... It's always been a complicated relationship we fight constantly.... I am a happy upbeat adventurous person while she is constantly negative and has anger management issues. Lately ive been thinking about the future, I really don't want her in mine that is. The problem is I care about her well-being she has had a very hard life being abandoned by her parents and being put into foster care, seperated from her siblings, and more recently a man who took her in as his own has killed himself. So as you can see it's reasonable I'm worried about her. I have just suggested we take a step back and become roommates. We won't date anyone else for now but the romance will disappear. Hopefully this will either rekindle our relationship or we will see that we are better friends and go our separate ways.... I just need some guidance is this a good idea and what else should I do???? I still love her just not as a lover more as a close family member.

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  • MM
    Lv 7
    6 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Bad idea. Feelings don't just "disappear" because that's what you need them to do. Not knowing exactly what you are to each other or how you should behave is going to drive you both crazy, and you'll either jump straight back into the relationship without solving any of the issues that led you to break up, or it'll all end in tears and drama and you'll never talk to each other again. If you're going to separate, then you need to actually separate. But if you're not 100% sure you're prepared to call it quits, I think you need to try and fix your problems from within the relationship first.

  • 6 years ago

    You're gonna ruin her even more if you do that in my opinion.

  • 6 years ago

    no

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