I can't live with my mum anymore. What should I do?

You're right, "it shouldn't be like this," but it is. I'm sorry you have to go through this and I'm sorry your mom has let you down, and let the family down, in a big way. But you can't change the situation by hoping it will be different. That frustration will destroy you and eat you up. I don't know how old you are, but if you're old enough to be on a computer and type such a well-written message, you're old enough to realize that you can love your mom but you don't need her approval any more. You're not a tiny baby who is going to die without her attention. You are not helpless. You have your dad, your sister, your grandparents (for now), and you can build a support network of friends, teachers, pets, neighbors, the LGBTQ community, church (if that's your thing -- there are some churches that support LGBTQ), etc. You DO know "what to do." Be you.

Don't be afraid to assert yourself -- you don't have to yell or cry or threaten, just take a deep breath and say, "This is how I dress mom, I'm not going to change, so stop talking about it." Or, "I'm sick of watching you cheat on dad." Or, "Maybe if you weren't such a self-centered *****, your kids wouldn't be cutting themselves." Or whatever you feel like you need to say. Be honest and that might help you relieve some of the pressure and stress, at least on your end, because you won't be keeping it bottled up inside. Don't hug her if you don't want to hug her, right now. I'd say she's worked really hard to destroy any family love, so I can understand why you wouldn't want to hug her. But do try to find it in your heart to forgive your mom for her weaknesses and narrow minded ideas. She is what she is, probably because of the way she grew up. She's obviously unhappy or she wouldn't be doing these things.

I hope your family is getting some counseling, alone or together. If not, maybe ask your dad about that?

call cps if you feel you cant live with your mom