Im 18 years old planning to get married with 38 years old married man with two kids! What should i do?!!?

OK first of all he can't marry you until he's divorced from his wife. MANY a man has kept a mistress on a string, sometimes for years, with promises of imminent divorce, but then there's always some reason why it can't be now. If I were you I would start by putting your relationship on hold with him until he leaves that house and files papers. And that's just to start! ALSO, your age difference. It's not just the 20 year difference. It's YOUR AGE! At 18 your brain is still growing. It will be for several more years yet. Bottom line: You're too damn young to be getting married to ANYBODY! Finish growing, date, have fun, and figure out what you REALLY want from a partner. Not just what you want at 18. It may yet change. (Are you still looking for the same things you wanted when you were 14?!?) Finally, what is this guy doing with an 18 year old? You might not know better but he should. IF he truly loves you and is truly honorable he will back off from you, finish his business with his family, and then MAYBE, just MAYBE something can happen here. BIG maybe. Honestly it would be a lot easier to accept if you were 25 and he were 45. Even then hardly perfect.

Well since he is already married, he certainly won't be marrying you, otherwise, he will be committing bigamy!

I can certainly understand why you feel this way, but perhaps the fact that you asked this question, means that you are not completely without sense and thus, I will take this opportunity to say something and hope you will pay attention.

When a man is married and has children and starts up a sexual relationship with a girl old enough to be his daughter, this shows that as much as you believe him to be amazing, the reality is that he is CHEATING on his wife and will cause a heck of a lot of emotional upset for his CHILDREN. Do you really want to hurt his children? I mean is your love that selfish that you cannot possibly pass a thought for his children? Lol just because he says his wife is angry, that is no reason to commit this gross act!

And something else: he has so easy turned against his wife and children, do you honestly think he would remain pure to you?

He is feeling like a stud that he has caught a young woman.

What you should do, is end it right now, but are you?

Don't do it, of course. If you still think its a good idea, at least try living with him and the kids first, and keep a little bag of gold handy. You may need it, if you decide to move on. You talked a lot about all the things he bought you, which makes you sound like you are in it more for the material wealth than the relationship itself. Any truth to this? Listen: even if he were the greatest thing since sliced bread, twenty years is going to become increasingly problematic as he and you both age. Imagine the time when he is in his eighties, and you are still that much younger. Chances are good that he will be tired, he will be sick, and you will become his stay at home nurse. Sound like fun? Your relationship with his kids : they can destroy you, if they don't accept you or see you as a home wrecker. What have you been doing having an affair with a married man in the first place, kiddo? I guess that could make you a home wrecker in real life. Not a great way to start out in a marriage. Now, you have only known him for six months. Does it seem like enough time to really know him all that well? It isn't. I don't know your actual age, but you sound very young, not yet fully mature or experienced, and not to smart about the whole idea, to be honest. If I were you, I'd cool my jets for the time being. Let him go ahead and get divorced if he wishes, wait and see how you still feel about him in a year, calm down. Do know that if he was willing to cheat on his wife with you, he could just as easily be willing to cheat on you, too. You are 18? I must have missed reading this. Do also know that the chances are about zero that he would go through with a divorce for the sake of being with you, though his wife would be in her rights to divorce him. Good luck,

At 18 years of age. Your life has just begun. Your love interest is 38. Now he has already

driven half way down the road of his life. And should know the difference between what is

right and wrong.

When it comes to you. If he is married and is chasing all over you. He has shown he has

not the character or the integrity of anyone worth while. He is an adulterer. He will do the

very same thing to you. (COUNT ON IT). Your being drawn into a bad situation. Go to

school. Get a life started. Don't bog yourself down with 2 kids that are damn near as

old as you are.

You can't wait until you're like 25 or 28? The hell do you think you'll gain outta marrying a 38 year old man who is married and has two kids that will almost definitely rebel against you? Go partying with some boys, get a job and do something normal or produ

So, other people on here can lecture you about the age thing. And the fact that his kids are young enough to be your silblings. And what he's motives may be as a man old enough to be your dad. But, I'm gonna to comment on the fact that you are 18. DON'T MARRY ANYONE. Be 18, go to college, travel this world, have boyfriends (your own age). Be a ******* young adult with all the freedom that comes with it. If you're comfy with being his mistress, than no big. But you can never get your young adulthood back and believe me for good or bad it's ******* sweet. I would never relive that part of my life because that's a part of what makes it sweet. If I was you I get some self respect and not be someones side piece, you deserve to be someones girlfriend. But, as some who was once 18. I know it's the end all be all right now. And, he is the love of your life until you wake up. It's apart of being young and stupid. Be young and stupid, but for godsake don't get married or have a baby until your over 25.

Well, I'm going to waste an answer and bring my rating down for this.

There are always psychological issues at play when sexual relationships with such big age differences are mixed. Especially the young girl/older man. I don't know what kind of answer you are looking for. The 5% who tell you it's ok? Because you know something isn't right. Men want younger women. I don't mean in a pedophilia kind of way. But in that untampered, unspoiled, vibrant youth kind of way. But, of course, you'll get old, too. He'll be buying another young chick, and you'll be trying to live off your alimony. Who am I kidding, I know that if you marry him, there will be a prenup involved.

Do you not think his wife has the right to be an angry wife? And ask where he is all the time? She knows something is up. He's throwing away his children's perfect life and good raising for some 18 year old bimbo. Of course, if it wasn't you, it'd be the next young girl who would give him the time of day. Maybe you already are one of the "next girls".

In short, this dude is trash. If you are trash, BY ALL MEANS, go for it. Don't come back crying to Yahoo! Answers when it doesn't work out, lol.

As far as Healthy men are concerned 38 years is not at all old. Women age very soon and you'll start ageing by 28 . By that time he'll also start ageing slowly, depending on his Life-style, diet, medicines, etc.If he wants to really live with you better avoid him until he files a Divorce suit. However he will have to dish out a large amount of Alimony and provide for his 2 kids. So, don't take a final decision until all these problems are amicably solved. If he is a cheat , better find some good lover friend.

You can't wait until you're like 25 or 28? The hell do you think you'll gain outta marrying a 38 year old man who is married and has two kids that will almost definitely rebel against you? Go partying with some boys, get a job and do something normal or productive. But you can go ahead and play the idiot if you want to

What if he cheats on you? Think about it. He already has a failed marriage. Either confront the wife(real one) and tell her what is happening and wait to see how it works out, or just don't marry him. First of all, the kids are only 5 years younger than you! You're still in school and he is 20 years older than you. Think about it. How wierd would it e to see a 18 y/o wife with 2 sons only 5 and 6 years younger than her! And also, it seems to me that you only like him because of all the things he has given you. Try to give him back everything, then try the relationship. Chances are that you will not like it as much. Also look at all the answers here. Not one person says that you should marry him! Wait till you're 25 at least.