How many people who list DIVORCE as the solution have actually been married?

I seldom recommend divorce since I've seen the damage it can do. That said, there are some situations and some people for whom it may actually be the best option. In spousal abuse situations I think it truly is the best option for the person who has been abused to leave and divorce their abusive spouse. People who are repeat offenders that have been forgiven but continue to take advantage of the forgiveness to cheat again. And people who do not believe in counseling (for whatever reason) generally can't get through it by themselves and can't forgive. Cheating does not necessarily spell the end of a marriage, but there are other behaviors and actions that might or should.

Divorce is pretty awful. It's bad enough it changes people. I guess young people that have no real assets, and don't have a long term commitment, find it fairly easy. Most of us think it's pretty nearly the end of our world. Some of us never fully recover. I'm not going to pass judgement on cheating or other non standard behavior, but all those involved, should ask themselves, "besides my pride, how did this actually hurt me?". Also they should consider life after the divorce. Seedy apartment, no security, alone at night, etc. Is life better WITH or WITHOUT the cheater. Perhaps status quo, with her enjoying her occasional fling, or him spending a few hours a week with the new, young coworker, is better than divorce. Usually anything is better than divorce. The exception is violent and/or destructive behavior.

Yes divorce can set you back financially, but even crackheads can afford a rundown apartment.

I personally couldn't get the image of someone I married having sex and eating out some woman behind my back. Lots of times the cheating is an ongoing thing, an affair with a co-worker etc. Just think of the times your spouse might have even gotten his wang sucked in the bedroom he shares with his wife.

Honestly, if I was forced to live with someone like that, I'd probably end up ramming their head against a brick wall. I just couldn't take it, it's disgusting and the ultimate betrayal.

Like I said, even crackheads can afford a rundown apartment, so even if you divorce, you can still move out on your own. Work two jobs if you need to and pay a family member to watch your kids over night if need be. There's ALWAYS a way out. Only thing we can't get out of is death and taxes.

I hardly ever recommend getting a divorce because I do think highly of marriage... BUT if the person is being abusive, then they need to get out of that marriage ASAP! If a spouse is cheating, sometime counseling can help but if they continue to cheat then why be married to someone that can bring home a disease that could kill you? Marriage is something that needs respect. I am actually re-married. I was married to my ex for 17 yrs, he wouldn't stop having affairs, wouldn't work so I packed mine and my kids things and we left. BEST decision I ever made.

I had been married and with children. When i got fed up i took my children and left for rented apartment. I did not argue abt silverwear and hairdryer - i bought my children beds and was sleeping on a chezlong for a few weeks while waiting for my bed to arrive. I didnot tell anyone - my personal affairs are my personal affairs. Since that i met my current husband, got married and live in an own house with a beautiful garden with a man i love very much. I have a nice pininfarina convertible he bought me cos i always wanted to have a convertible. So here u have all your answers - for me posessions were not important, peace of mind was much more important. And freedom. And i m the one who is saying it s better to be hungry but free than living in a cage of misery

Just wanted to add cos yahoo answers seem to be stuck on tha cheating thing - nobody cheated on anybody in my marriage, i just was unhappy with the qualit of our lives. And i dont care abt cheating. There re much more important things in life than fcking someone else

Not very many, cheating does not often make divorce the best answer for either person in the marriage. More often it is best to just accept it as something that happened and move on.

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Lots of jokers on Y/A are eager to throw away other's marriages .

Edit : While I offer " creative " answers at times , very , very seldom do I suggest divorce .

my husband and i worked through it when he came back after living with another woman for two years....my son and his wife worked through it when he was unfaithful while on a business trip....and now we are all more happily married than we ever were before it all happened...15 years for me, 7 years for my son.

i ALWAYS tell people to try to forgive and work through infidelity. i know it is not always possible and it is never ever easy, but it can be done if people want to make it happen.

p.s. LOVE your logo.

Never said Yahoo is the right answer. Most really dont care. My wife cheated on me. We got over it.