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Long distance best friend from childhood lied to me what would you do?

I had a really good friend in middle school and high school. We lost touch for a few years when I moved out of state for school, then we got back in touch and started talking a few times a week. We had been friends for 13 years and she had gotten married and had 2 kids at a young age. During that time we didn't talk, she said she went to school and became an RN. Long story short she started cheating on her husband and her husband eventually confronted me about what I knew (I told him the truth) and when I mentioned something about nursing he was confused told me that she wasn't a nurse and had dropped out of school after 1 year. To get to the truth I checked online for her nursing license (she lives in a state where it's public record) and it didn't exist. Never did. So I found out she lied to me. I've cut off contact and I never want to speak to her again if I can't trust her to be honest with me. What you have done in this situation? Did I do the right thing?

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  • 6 years ago
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    You did the right thing. To the idiots saying everyone lies...a little white lie is one thing but you don't lie to the person who is supposedly your best friend about dropping out of school. If the asker was truly this woman's friend then she was likely not judging this person regardless of their circumstance and trusted them to be honest and this person violated that trust. If I were in your shoes I would have been tempted to publicly shame her. Know that you did the right thing by cutting this person off. Don't even think on this scum, live your life freely and honestly. I hope her kids grow up knowing better than their mother to lie but they will have to be adopted for that to happen. As for you, cherish the friends you do have and count your blessings this ho isn't in your life anymore.

    Source(s): I DESPISE liars and cheaters.
  • 6 years ago

    I don't think I would have completely cut her off. I mean that's just me. I would have tried to understand the circumstances in her life, or whatever emotional state she was going through. For example, she might have been really embarrassed and ashamed of how she let her life get all scrambled. Dropping out of school and not finishing does tend to be looked down upon. And who knows why she dropped out. Could have been some really big that happened in her life, money problems, a distraction, or having a baby. And the fact that she's been friends with you for years, she might have felt very competitive against you, and didn't want you thinking she was slowing down, or stuck.

    Lies are not very good, true. But we've all lied about something in our lives. I would have been more upset about her not valuing her marriage and the vows she should have taken to heart. But I highly doubt her lying to you was personal at all.

    But if you can't trust somebody, then you don't need to be around them in any way or form.

  • 6 years ago

    It's easy to be self-righteous like a couple people who posted answers but I think you made the right call. If it were me, I would have done the same thing. We are who our friends are and your friend is a liar. Who wants to be friends with a known liar and cheater? I know I wouldn't. Why would you even waste your time with a long distance friendship with someone who can't be honest with you? You did right to get rid of her. She was not a true friend. A true friend would be honest with you.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    Wow. What a *****! I know you already chose an answer but my 2 cents is to forget about her and karma has a way of working this type of stuff out.

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  • Gert
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Seems to me she needs a friend really bad. You're quite judgmental.

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