She's single but she says "she's seeing someone," I don't know what to do?

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Ok, so me and this girl have been really good friends for about half a year now. She's extremely playful with me, even doing things along the lines of hugging my head and even petting my hair. She only does this sort of stuff with me. She's asked me to walk short distances with her(like to throw something away, etc.) occasionally. I interpreted all this in a fun way and a flirtatious way.

However, a few months ago, I admitted that I liked her over text. She said "sorry, I'm talking to someone else." she's also made it publicly clear she's "happy she hasn't dated anyone in four months". Things obviously became awkward after that, but we both agreed to not let it extinguish our friendship.

But now, a few months later, she s still very fun to be around and acts like this with me. I still have mad feelings for her, and I don't know what to do! She isn't really dating someone. I don't know if she's still talking to someone after all this time. I really don't want to disrespect her or ruin our friendship, but she's giving all of these signs and I don't how to respond. Should I text her saying I still have feelings towards her? Please give me advice.

Lisa · Accepted Answer

You told her you like her. There's nothing else you can do. If she wants to be with you .she will make it clear she wants more. It stinks when your feelings aren't returned the same way. I feel your pain

Ok... · Answer

Well, you have run into the CLASSIC truth, that you can't have both friendship and romance. Hate to say this, but this is partly your fault, because you still wanted to be friends, even after she told you NO... If a girl is interested, she will NOT be telling a guy that she is seeing someone else, etc. She'd say YES.

Good luck.

nonchalant_muse · Answer

One of two things:

1. You are misinterpreting her interactions with you as being flirtatious. She does not intend to come across to you that way (perhaps she is just naturally overly friendly with you)

2. She IS purposely behaving in a flirtatious manner with you, but it is only for the attention and the ego-stroking that she gets from you. She has absolutely no romantic interest in you, but she likes the idea that you "want" her and have a crush on her. She thrives on the flattery from this.

Either way, the feelings are not mutual and she either thinks of you only as a good friend or she is using you for her own ego. It's obvious that you are not satisfied in the role of "best buddy" with this girl, so it's probably best that you cut ties with this girl and see what other options are out there.

Anonymous · Answer

You should NOT have told her you liked her. You blew it.

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