My husband's aunt is so rude to me. I have to go to a wedding she will be at. How can I avoid a big bad confrontation? She is never kind?

Go to the wedding. Keep the focus off this rude aunt. Enjoy yourself by mingling with the other guests and stay away from rude aunt. If you must stop by her table and say Hello then do so to keep the peace. Say something positive about her dress or something, then make an excuse to leave to get a beverage. Really just avoid her for the night, you'll have a much better time. Let her be rude to someone else.

If you truly have to go, then you have to go. Dress very appropriately and behave with perfect manners and do not drink alcohol. Try to avoid her as much as possible and make sure that your own behaviour is beyond reproach. Make as many friends and allies as possible at the wedding by behaving in a totally friendly and polite manner and there is some chance that others may come to your aid. If not, then at least God will be on your side. By behaving beyond reproach, nothing the aunt is going to say will be justified, which means that she will be wrong when she is rude to you. Forewarned and forearmed that she is going to wrong you, you can pray to God for patience, and answer as politely and softly as possible. The Bible says that, "A soft answer turneth aside wrath", though I have certainly been in situations when no matter how softly I answered the other person was simply determined to be abusive. If you really cannot stand it, perhaps you will be able to walk away quietly. Also remember that, no matter how polite you are and may wish to be, there are some questions that are simply too rude to deserve and answer, so you do not have to answer a truly unreasonable and rude question even posed by an aunt. If she is absolutely rude and outrageous, then you do have the right to turn on your heel and walk away from her. If she escalates it to attacking you physically then you should call the law on her. You should not suffer violent physical abuse. By remaining sober you will be in much stronger position at the end of the day, in every way, particularly if the police get called in. Also, you will win the day by following this advice. She may make you feel terrible in the shortrun, but you will win in the longrun. No matter how much the other relatives may stand by her because she has the stronger claim on their loyalty, they will see her for what she is, and secretly approeciate that your behaviour is superiour to hers. You may not hear about it for a long time, but it will be noted quietly by others. Just remain perfectly blameless.

I would just try to stay out of her way. Politely say hello/acknowledge her presence, but otherwise, don't interact with her. Hang out on the other side of the room, surround yourself with other guests, find something to preoccupy you. If she does say anything nasty, just don't respond. Remain calm and neutral, don't rise to her or say anything back. Argumentative people get off on causing a reaction from you, so try to keep your emotions under the lid. Be the bigger person, because not only will it make the wedding run more smoothly for the couple, but anyone watching will see that you're more mature than the aunt. It might be difficult, but try to forget she's there, and just focus on having a good time and celebrating the couple's wedding.

Avoid her as much as possible. Keep any contact you do have as short as possible and if possible make sure you have other people there who can either stop her being rude or who can respond to her rudeness by being nice about you. Also have a word with your husband - he really should stand up for you in cases like this, and tell his aunt that he isn't happy with her behaviour. If she is nasty, be the bigger person - smile, don't say anything back, and move on to the next person to chat with.

Always be gracious no matter what. The best medicine is to have a great time and let them know they hold no power over you. Quick story here. Went to beauty school and Margaret was the feared client, fake eye an all, very negative and made all the stylists cry. She eventually booked with me and everyone watched because I have such a great way with people. I took time to ask her questions, did not shut down, let her know I cared, searched for common ground to talk about things. She fell so in love with me she requested me each time. I will never forget when I saw her the last time before she was put into a senior's nursing home. She saved her pennies and bout me an "angel" and the note reads" Thank you for making me laugh again and bringing me back home". I love you Margaret, don't forget!

When you see her remember she is just an Aunt, she is not the Queen just another woman. And you are her equal, if she says something nasty then laugh, and tell her she is soo funny. Then walk away. Do not under any circumstances let her see that she has upset you. Because she is a bully, and when you laugh it is not the response they want.

Even if she starts to talk, look past her and go and talk to someone else, when she sees that her words have no impact she will torment somebody else. When the day comes for the wedding don't have any negative thoughts about this bully just go and enjoy the day knowing that if she is in your face you are going to laugh.

Think best to say we all have one of those relatives just Smile say hello and only say more if you get a

question keep your answer short keep smile then look for someone else or other 's that is there try make eye contact and just go straight over and socialise then you do not have to make small talk her show that you are happy smile and having a good time .So when she see's you smiling and have a go time that normal hurts so just enjoy yourself .

Hopefully you wont be seated at her table.Your husband should man up and tell her to stop being nasty to you or tell her yourself.I understand she is older but if she is acting up over petty things then she, needs to be put down a few pegs!Or another scenario kill her with kindness Say Hello then move on .You don,t need to spoil the brides day either by making a scene so maybe she will find someone else to pick on when they know ,they can get to you they do it more like a bully Just sayin

. If she is absolutely rude and outrageous, then you do have the right to turn on your heel and walk away from her. If she escalates it to attacking you physically then you should call the law on her. You should not suffer violent physical abuse. By remaining sober you will be in much stronger position at the end of the day, in every way, particularly if the police get called in. Also, you will win the day by following this advice. She may make you feel terrible in the shortrun, but you will win in the longrun. No matter how much the other relatives may stand by her because she has the stronger claim on their loyalty, they will see her for what she is, and secretly approeciate that your behaviour is superiour to hers. You may not hear about it for a long time, but it will be noted quietly by others. Just remain perfectly blameless.

There is some good advice, stay neutral, if she scoffs at you or makes a snide remark, tell her how beautiful she looks and smile and say you must use the restroom, fill your drink, etc. Don t give her the satisfaction of making you uncomfortable. Always remember be kind, it only makes them look foolish especially when all you do is say kind things. Best of luck. And remember, have fun. You were invited to celebrate this occasion, so celebrate and love the man you re with.