My best friend won't stop talking about her MC...and I'm pregnant?

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I found out I was pregnant, two weeks ago and before I found out, I was a chain smoker and didn't eat right at all. I've been worried sick since that I hurt my baby and that I'll miscarry. My best friend has been extremely supportive since the begininng and honestly, a god send. Until a few days ago when she revealed to me that she was previously pregnant and miscarriaged when she was pretty far along, nearly 5 months. I'm almost ten weeks. So I had been chain smoking until I was nearly 8 weeks along. I haven't gotten any medical check ups yet to tell me if everything's okay and I'm paranoid. She will not stop talking about her miscarriage. I even said at one point "I wish everyone would stop telling me their miscarriage horror stories, it's rude and hurtful." She was like "oh don't listen to those kinds of people" 
As if she wasn't my main source of horror stories. Then ten minutes later, she went back to talking about it.

I don't know what to do, or how to get her to stop. I'm worried sick something is wrong and she knows it. That along with the fact, I have zero pregnancy symptoms and I've been told by other people that's a really bad sign.

What do I do to get her to stop so I can calm down enough?!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Just tell her that it makes you worry when she talks about it right now. Many women don't talk about their miscarriage s because it's a subject most people don't want to hear about. It maybe that she never really got to talk about it with anyone and now that she's told you about it she feel like she can finally talk about it. So, you should let her know that you do care about what she's been through, and you would be open to talking to her about it, just not right mow.

Also, are you taking a multivitamin? It's important to get enough folic acid.

D · Answer

Tell her frankly, "You have been talking about your miscarriage a lot and it's really making me worried right now. Can we just avoid that subject for awhile until I know my baby is okay?" Or something of that sort. Be direct since your hint did not appear to register. She may not be aware how much she is talking about it or how it is affecting you. And go to your doc. You should be in for a prenatal visit by 10 weeks or so ideally. That might help you feel more relaxed.

twinsisterwendy · Answer

Tell her again to stop it right when she's at it. And stop worrying girl. It's very normal not to feel very pregnant yet.

? · Answer

Instead of making it sound like a lot of people are talking about their miscarriages to you just be straight up. Tell her "Can YOU please stop talking about your miscarriage?" Or just avoid her. You're hearing all these stories from her because you're around her. Just remove yourself from the situation.

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