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How long should I wait for a proposal/marriage talk?

In my second year of uni and have been with my bf for just over 18 moths, I met him there. I'm 21 and he's 20.

I know I'm being ridiculous but I have to ask about it to get it out of my head. Yesterday I was watching Millionaire Matchmaker and Patti Stanger said that a guy should propose within a year, today my cousin (same age as me) proposed to his gf who he's been with about a year, last week a girl I was at primary school with got engaged and yesterday a friend from uni, about a year older, got married.

Even though we don't even live in the same county outside of uni, and many other reasons mean I know that for us to get married right now would be ridiculous, but I can't help but think if it's worth it. We're each other's first relationship, and haven't talked marriage but are so really happy and have our holiday for next summer planned so we're afraid of the future.

Sorry for the rambling, but it's all buzzing about in my head. Some life experience/advice, or even just telling me to get a grip would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    6 years ago

    It's perfectly fine to start talking about marriage, but there is certainly no rush to actually get engaged! Apparently Patti Stranger is crazy…proposing after less than a year of being together is totally ridiculous and should NOT be the norm. Why do you think we have such high divorce rates?! It takes more time than that to know whether a couple is truly meant for one another. So, the bottom line is, there's no rush to get married. For now, just enjoy being together. You can start mentioning marriage and see how he reacts.

  • 6 years ago

    You're so young, don't worry about getting married. We didn't get engaged until 2 1/2 years in. Finish Uni, and then see where thing so from there. No need to panic, and stop following advise from someone who's not living your life.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    You are nowhere near ready to think about getting engaged, then plan a wedding

    Finish your education, get a job, then when you are both settled in careers, think about it then.

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