Husbands ex?

So his ex expects you to rearrange your schedule to when is convenient for her, but it sounds like you are doing the exact same thing by saying you won't be there when she is normally dropped off and expecting her to be dropped off at a more convenient time. It would seem to me that if your husband wants to see his daughter on the weekends then it is his responsibility to either make sure someone is home when her mother is willing to drop her off, or to go get her himself. I don't really understand why you are asking the question here since you and your husband seem to be on the same page about it. Nobody here thinks that the two of you are right, but why should that matter to you?

She's not the one being selfish & silly. YOU are the one being selfish and silly. You knew when she was supposed to be dropped off, and you made plans anyway. Now you're upset because other people aren't willing to change their plans and make extra trips to accommodate YOUR plans.

Now you & your husband can either make the extra trip to go pick her up or you can skip it this weekend.

Next time, plan your shopping trips around the pickup/drop-off times. You can either finish your shopping before the pickup, or maybe wait until after you pick her up and then take your step daughter with you.

I totally agree with the other answers! To add to that, if this is your husband, that is your child. Put yourself in place of the other woman and stop looking at this from your viewpoint only. Philippians 2:4 tells us, ‘keep an eye, not in personal interest upon just your own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of the others.’

To me it sounds like two trashy women who were both too proud to act like adults and figure out a reasonable solution for all. You're just as selfish and silly as she is; but I guess that was more important than letting your husband see his daughter, huh?

you know every week this visit happens

how can you blame the ex for what she did/

you made it a point to not be there, you are supposed to work together in life with your hubby, and you have not shown that you are doing this

looks to me like you want to find someone to side with you, and by the comments this has not happened yet.

tell me, if you are marching with a 100 people,are you the only one in step?

you are the one who couldn't be bothered to wait for discountinue your shopping in order to be present to receive the child, so it is not she who is being selfish and silly but you.

if your husband is upset, it should be at you for not making arrangements to interrupt your shopping to meet her and get the child.

why should she have to work around your schedule to do your husband a favor? it is actually not her responsibility to take the child to you anyway. even if it were court ordered visitiation. it would be his responsibility to pick the child up from her home, or to send you to pick the child up. but the mother has zero obligation to bring the child to you.

Why did you just meet her out, since you were already going to be out and she was too.

You are the one being selfish, why did you wait so long?!

I feel bad for that little girl.

So he goes to pick her up because you were too busy.

You deserve his anger.

You gotta lot of nerve to call her your step daughter.

A mother would have waited for her daughter.