why does clones 200k and Jessica think you are transphobic by not dating transgendered?

There are a few reasons I've heard. The first is that not dating a transgender person involves making some assumptions. Either that they have problems, their genitals are wrong, etc. The second reason is that it de-legitimizes them. It reinforces the notion that they aren't truly the gender they identify as.

I personally don't see it as transphobic, people have their own taste. I personally wouldn't object to a transgender partner if they had the right personality, but there is quite a few areas where I would be (admittedly) petty.

It's there opinion. I "might" date a trans women, it depends. Here's the thing, I don't care if your transsexual, I wish you the best of luck. I really don't care. Of course I'd use the correct pronouns and such. But it all depends on how much physically you're a female. If your pre op. No surgery or anything, still have a penis and such then no. I'm lesbian, nothing will change that. I can't force myself to like someone who has a penis, sorry bros and lady's. But if you're post op, physically are a women and you've had bottom surgery and you're a nice gal, sure I'd date you.

I'm not being transphobic because of this. That's like saying I'm sexist because I won't date men. And before you say oh but trans women are women ect. Yes, I know that. Like I said I'd adress her as the women she is but unless she's had full surgery, not going to date her. I'd be pretty mad if I got into bed with a girl only to find out she still has her penis.

They want to be accepted for how they view themselves and not how the world views them. Problem is that not everyone shares their view or perspective on the matter.

Some people are open minded enough to still look past what they've done to their bodies and value them for who they are (which is really all that matters), but it doesn't make anyone "phobic" for not wanting to date them. The same could be said of someone choosing not to date the obnoxious drunk girl at a party. Not a phobia, just a preference. With the way they're acting, I really think it's a defence mechanism to preserve their self - image. Have compassion for them. They are still human, after all...

Of course It's transphobic because you're excluding trans people just because of their medical condition. I understand that you might be seeking post op trans people only, but if you refuse to date someone just because of their condition and them being post-op then yes you are transphobe

People can date whoever they want. If people don't want to date you because of your condition why would you want to date them?

And BTW I think Clones and Jessica are disliking the comments!

If you actually pay attention, or do your own research, then you'd know why they think the way they do. As an actual trans person, I agree with them, and I hate to say this, but if you're not trans, then you have absolutely no right to decide what's transphobic and what isn't, even if you are part of the queer community.

I don't know them but I guess they think that everyone should be Pansexual since they fail to see it as a matter of perspective....transgenders can define them selves as hetero, gay or bisexual but whomever dates them is a pansexual and none of the others.

Here's my problem with transgenders: they give gays & lesbians a bad name. People do not choose to be gay. Likewise people do not choose what gender they are born with. An attempt to change one's gender is not natural, it is a choice. Is it a disorder? I'll leave that up to researchers to determine.

Despite that I'm willing to tolerate transgendered persons. The gay & lesbian community tolerates them more than any other community: we even endure ridicule, stereotyping and abuse from ignorant people who associate homosexuality with transgenderism. But when they start dictating the terms of who we should be dating, that's where I draw the line. Making your own choices based on your own preferences is not a phobia.

yes indeed... they are very transphobic even though they both are transgenders. Hypocrisy indeed.