Do you tell someone that they hurt you?

Yes. You need to express your hurt. Write a letter if you can't talk on the phone.

Talk it over with a third person you trust, who knows you both.

If you do decide to clear the air, do it in person, in private, and don't take them by surprise. But do it face to face or not at all.

Darling, I'm afraid that this person may not react the way you want him to do..

If you want to Express your feelings I recommend you to write them on a piece of paper..you will feel much better after this..

Listen..nobody wants to talk to a person who just keeps on keeping on with the negativity..who needs it . Answer; nobody. 3 yrs of this..oh,please..I would run from you ..fast..Flip side,obviously as well this person means something to you..but,you are handling it all wrong,you keep this up,they will shut you off completely. If you sincerely and genuinely want to heal something,yes talk..it through,in the same breathe letting them know,just how much they do mean to you. Do not make them feel you are just attacking them all over again,as what is the sense in it..heal things,for real..or let them and yourself go,and move on.~*