Why is defining our sexuality so important?

Sometimes labels can be good, and sometimes they can be bad. A lot of people find comfort in having a definitive label for their gender or their sexuality because it lets them know that they aren't alone, they aren't "weird," etc. Having a label can also be helpful in explaining to people what experiences you've been through, or how you might relate to them.

However, I see your point too. I think a lot of people who are just coming out as queer (to themselves or others) get pretty preoccupied by the labels, and it can become sort of all consuming for a while. In my experience, most people grow out of this with time.

My advice would be to let folks define themselves if they want to, and don't feel pressured to do the same. Just let people do what they want.

Useless crap? If society wasn't so obsessed with the sexuality of others, so bent on claiming that everyone should be heterosexual and if the church wasn't so hateful towards gay people, then as you rightly say, sexuality shouldn't be an issue. And, whilst most easily realise what sexual instincts they were born with, many find their instincts remain unclear, at least during teenage years when puberty messes with their mind and their body. Again, if society and religion didn't make such a big thing of it, maybe it would be easier for us all to go with the flow, not worrying about the reaction or rejection of others just because we were made a bit differently to them. Useless crap to you maybe, but for someone still trying to figure it out and under pressure from the expectations of others, traumatising to say the least. Have a bit of compassion.

The label helps me and it helps others. And other peoples' labels for themselves help them and it helps me.

Words are just representations we use to get a point across quickly.

For instance, I am a lesbian. I could say "I am a woman who is physically/emotionally/romantically/sexually attracted to women, and only women. I am only interested in dating women, and I envision myself having a woman as a life partner."

But instead, I just call myself a lesbian. And on the other side, a woman can call herself a lesbian if she wants me to know quickly that she's interested in woman. Any specifics can be dealt with later. And women who are straight can tell me they're straight in order to save time.

I think young people have a greater need to define themselves than older people do. Because they're faced with putting themselves out there in "the marketplace", as it were. They want to know what it is they're "selling".

Really?So people shouldn't worry if they will turn out a Queer?

there are two sexes male and female